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The Case for High End Toys… by Danny Z

Often as I was growing up, my mother would tell me, “buy the best you can afford.” It’s something that has stuck with me as an adult. Of course we’ve all heard the saying, “you get what you pay for.” I’m cool with that. I understand that not everything is made to last, quality is relative, and rarely does something cheap last. But buying the best you can afford is a little different. It requires the understanding of the value of an item.

See, I am the kind of person who only wants to purchase something once. I’ll buy exactly what I want, even if I had to save up for it. And since I am on a budget, my money is important to me! With that in mind, I do my research ahead of time and want to make sure I don’t waste my money. I do this with almost anything I buy, from vitamins to replacement parts for my bicycle. Amazon and customer reviews are my best friends. They help me justify any purchase I make! And since I am an avid instore buyer, I need that feedback to feel confident in my purchase. Overall, I understand that I am paying a little more here and there for quality. But with that financial sacrifice, I am rewarded with many advantages.

In the world of sex toys, the same principles apply. There are low quality vibes for those on a budget. There’s the mid grade stuff… the stuff that will last a little longer and can handle a little aggression. Then there are the high end toys, which are a completely different level of quality and pleasure. I am not trying to sell you on high end toys, that high end is only the way to go. I love all the product lines we sell. But, I believe in quality and want you to be happy with your purchase. So, as a person who rarely experiences buyer’s remorse, I feel that I should share my wisdom with customers.

Why high end toys? Many of them come with a warranty of a year or more, whereas lower/mid quality toys usually only come with a 30 day warranty. Some higher end toys even have three year and to 15 year warranties. That’s insane! That’s like a car warranty! And it says something about the toys… It says that the manufacturer strongly believes in the quality and durability of their products. That is comforting to know, that my money is coming with the promise that it is not going to waste! No one wants to be disappointed by a manufacturer’s defect, if you know what I mean.

And speaking of quality, almost all high end toys are rechargeable and water proof (literally submergable, like you can play with it in the tub without a worry in the world). They are also made with better quality materials such as medical grade silicone and superior motors. In fact, the motors/vibrations on high toys tend to be faster and/or deeper than less expensive toys. So not only are you paying for quality and durability, your paying for stronger orgasms and greater pleasure!

Whether you need to stick to a budget or you want to splurge, research the products ahead of time! Ask questions! We are here to help, and there is a ton of great information online about most of our toys. At the end of the day, we want you to be happy with your purchase, even if it was with one of our lesser priced toys. But remember what my mom said… “buy the best you can afford.” I don’t think you can ever go wrong with that!

PORN… and lots of it!

I like porn. Is that weird?

If you’re a guy, you’re probably not all that impressed with my declaration. Most guys watch porn. But, if you asked most women, I bet they’d deny ever having watched it. There was a time that I was like that. I thought porn was degrading to women, a form of exploitation. At some point in my adult life, I began to lighten up and enjoy watching it – alone or with a partner. I no longer see it as a bad thing, but as a pleasurable thing that can enhance my masturbation or sex life with a partner.

For me, anal and girl-on-girl porn have the biggest turn-ons. I occasionally like Hentai, as there is something erotic about the domination and destruction of innocence that often happens in Hentai. And, I am more interested in realistic looking porn. The overly made-up and staged stuff doesn’t do it for me. I like my porn to look real, as if these two (or more) people just decided to get it on and happened to have a camera. I also like intense porn, where one act is focused on at length. All the switching up and changing acts or positions is too distracting. Got a girl munching down hard-core on another girl? Yes. Got a guy pounding away on an asshole while the girl cries in pain? Yes.

When I am alone, porn is a great escape. I’m a visual person and a creative person. I need that visual stimulation to get turned on. So, if I am masturbating, porn gets me going better than fantasizing does. But, it’s not only the visuals. In realistic porn, the audio gets me turned on, too. All that moaning and groaning really heightens my masturbation experience.

When I am with a partner, porn just makes it more interesting. I like to curl up next to someone and watch a video that may feature something we’d like to try. Or, maybe it’s something we like to do together already, and we just want to get the juices flowing. Besides, laying next to your partner, feeling them get hard because of the porn… that’s a big turn-on. And then while watching, touching each other or ourselves… that can be very hot! Also, have you ever allowed your partner to watch porn while you do whatever the porn-star is doing? It’s like your partner is getting to be in the porn. It’s like living out the fantasy of having sex with someone else without having to cheat.

And did you know that research shows porn can be beneficial for couples? Yes! It’s true! There are studies that show watching more porn results in increased sex drive and activity between partners, either when the partners watched it alone or together. Research has also shown that porn makes couples more spontaneous and less inhibited. So, not only were they more likely to have sex, more often, they were more likely to try new things! And, porn has been shown to improve your technique. Think about it… when watching porn, don’t you learn new tricks? Yes, yes you do!

If you’ve never watched porn, I can see how you’d be intimidated. The actors tend to have hot bodies, big boobs, and large dicks. But, try watching amateur porn. It’s full of people just like you and I. Want to give it a go? Try a free website like pornhub.com, yuvutu.com, or redtube.com. You can search by category and focus on what you like. Don’t want to search on the computer? Pick up a $9.99 video from our stores. We carry very tame titles and couples oriented videos for the faint of heart. Also, try watching the porn alone at first. If you don’t like it, you’ve only wasted your time and you haven’t gotten your partner’s hopes up. Then, if you do like it, mention it to your partner and see their eyes light up! I promise that anything you pick out, from wild to tame, will turn them on.

Vibrators 101: things that make you go hmmm!

When you walk into one of our stores, we make a point to greet you with a warm welcome, as well as offer to answer any and all questions. We want you to feel safe and comfortable, like we’re a close friend with which you can share your secrets. Lots of customers jump right in and pick our brains for what’s hot. But, there are always the customers who quickly offer, “I’m just looking”, then hurriedly skitter away. Here’s what happens next… They wander around for a few minutes. They try NOT to look at any of the toys. Then, they sheepishly return to one of us and say, “I need help. I have no idea what I am looking for! I’ve never, ever bought something like this before!” We smile and jump right in to what I call our “101 talks.” Whatever you’re looking for, we know what to use, what’s the best of the best, and how to make the most of it.

One of the types of items we sell the most of would be vibrators. But, vibrators come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, and colors. Not to mention, the can serve a variety of functions in the bedroom. Therefore, we frequently give “Vibrator 101” talks as we guide nervous, yet curious customers around the store. So, here’s my run-down on vibrators, just for you:

The Basic – This is also called a “starter vibe.” It’s not phallic in shape and is usually made of a smooth plastic material. These vibes usually have limited functions and speeds (think slow/medium/fast). Basic vibes run from small to medium in size, but run small in girth. They are great for someone who is looking for a starter toy, or just wants something inexpensive and basic. I suggest the Velvet Touch Vibe, by Doc Johnson. If you want a little more excitement from a basic vibe, try one of our Climax Gems by Topco for a textured experience!

The Bullet – This is also often referred to as an egg. Bullets are usually bullet-shaped, wand-shaped, or egg-shaped. They are usually made of a smooth plastic, or may be covered in a soft gel or silicone material. These vibes can range in function from a simple 3-speed to a 10 function ability, complete with pulses and patterns. Often times, they are attached to a remote. But, you can buy wireless versions. They range in size from 1″ to about the size of an egg. They are great for someone who wants clitoral stimulation during sex or masturbation. They are also good for vaginal use, if you’re looking for something on the small side. Bullets can range in price and quality, but here are my top 3 suggestions:

Vibrating Dildos/Dongs – Now we’re getting into some serious trouble! This is where you will begin to find more variety in the selection of toys. If you’re looking for a vibrator that may resemble your lover, this is where you want to start. Vibrating dildos are phallic in shape and resemble penises – veins, ridges, curves and all. They are made of soft gels and silicone. They come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Sizes range from 5″ to 12″ (unless you special order). Girths can range from the slender to the very hefty! And, these vibes come in colors from natural skin colors to wild colors like pink, purple, and blue. They may have only 3 speeds, or they may have multi-function settings that include pulses and patterns. They will range in price and quality. I suggest you try one of our EZ Bend Dongs, by California Exotics.

Rabbits/Multi-Stims Rabbit is the generic term to describe a vibrator that has both a vaginal shaft, as well as an external stimulator for the clitoris. Sometimes, these toys also have a 3rd stimulator for anal penetration. Like vibrating dildos & dongs, they are made of soft gels and silicone. They come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Sizes range from 5″ to 10″ (unless you special order). Girths can range from the slender to the very hefty! And, these vibes come in colors from natural skin colors to wild colors like pink, purple, and blue. They may have only 3 speeds, or they may have multi-function settings that include pulses and patterns. They will range in price and quality. Where they differ from vibrating dildos & dongs in that they often do not look realistic and may have see-through shafts which contain rotating beads. I suggest these toys, if you’re looking for a rabbit:

  • For beginner’s – Try a Platinum Butterfly Kiss, by California Exotics. It’s small and has multi-function vibrations.
  • For serious fun – Try the Thrusting Jack Rabbit, by California Exotics. Thrusting action and multi-function vibrations – YES!
  • For premium fun – Try the Thrill by We-Vibe, or the Ina by Lelo. High quality, rechargeable, multi-function toys designed for maximum pleasure!

G-Spot Vibrators – A G-spot vibrator is any of the about toys, but with a curved shaft specifically designed to put pressure on the g-spot. By applying pressure to the g-spot, you increase sexual pleasure, as well as the likelihood and intensity of orgasm. For maximum g-spot stimulation, I suggest the Gigi, by Lelo. The Gigi is the ultimate mid-size G-spot massager with a flattened tip is designed specifically for that erogenous zone. It’s also rechargeable and whisper-quiet, with 5 adjustable stimulation modes.

Wands/Personal Massagers – These toys are essentially the same as a personal back massagers. They are wand shaped, high-powered, with a large vibrating heads. Wands are not used for penetration and are external toys only. These toys usually do not have multi-function patterns or pulses, but instead have ranges in speed from low to high. Wands are best for women who have difficulty achieving orgasm, or do not climax with traditional vibrating toys. They range in price and size – from mini to full length (about 10″ long). Wands usually have a plug-in cord, but do come in battery-powered and rechargeable styles. For someone interested in a wand, I suggest trying the Bodywand Mini, by Bodywand. Start small to see if this is the type of toy for you. If so, invest in something bigger and more powerful!

So, that’s Vibrators 101. I hope you learned something new! There’s also vibrating glass toys, vibrating anal toys, vibrating panties, vibrating cock-rings, vibrating tongue rings, and many, many more things that can make you go hmmm… But, I will save all that for another day, another blog, another 101 class!!