Body Worship 101

About a month ago, I met someone who confided in me that they LOVE to have their balls worshipped. I asked him what he meant, what exactly he expected someone to do in order to worship his balls. He basically said he likes to have his balls stroked, licked, kissed, and squeezed as much as possible. You may be thinking, “that’s not all that unusual.” But, it’s not so much the acts, as it is the frequency and intensity by which he desired it. To him, the ball worship alone could satisfy his desires. He didn’t just want in the context of foreplay and sex. He wanted it as a stand alone act, something sustained and intense. He wanted his balls to be someone else’s complete focus. As someone who tends to lean towards the submissive side, this really got my wheels turning…

Without knowing it, I had just had my first experience with body worship…

So, what is “body worship”? According to Wikipedia, body worship is “any practice of physically reverencing a part of another person’s body, and is usually done as a submissive act in the context of BDSM.” Typical kinds of body worship include worship of the testicles, muscles, penis, vagina, or bottom. But body worship could be the complete reverence and care of any body part that you find particularly beautiful or arousing on your partner. Or, maybe it’s an extremely sensitive part of your partner’s body, such as the neck, feet, and palms of the hands.

For those in the BDSM community, you may already be familiar with the concept and practice of body worship. But, for the average Dick or Jane, you may be asking: “How can I do this in my own relationship?” As always, what works for some may not work for others. But, here are some things to get you started in body worship…

Talk to your partner… Ask your partner what areas of their body they LOVE for you to touch. This could be an erogenous zone, or simply a part of their body they enjoy having touched. For example, I do love having my clit or nipples stroked. But, my neck and the small of my back also happy to places that bring me lots of joy.

Spend some time on that spot… Once you find out where your partner would like to be worshipped, spend some time caring for that spot. Have your partner stand or lay down in front of you. Take your time admiring its beauty. Compliment your partner. Softly touch, kiss, and lick the area. Clean, massage, or moisturize that spot. Make it your complete focus for as long as your partner would like.

Need ides? Here are some spots to get you started and ideas for worshipping them…

The Back – Wash your partner’s back in the shower. Then, help them dry off. Once they are lounging on the bed, run your fingers gently up and down your partner’s back. Kiss them from the tips of the spine to the base of the neck. Grab an edible massage cream and give them a light massage. Then, lick and kiss off the cream.

The Feet – Wash your partner’s feet in a warm bath. Scrub them with an exfoliating wash, really massaging them as you go along. Then, dry them off. Have your partner sit in a chair with you at their feet. Kiss the tops and soles of their feet. Then, kiss the pads of each toe. Grab an edible massage cream and give them a light massage. Then, lick and kiss off the oil. If your partner likes it, suck the cream off their toes!

The Neck, Arms, Legs – Steal ideas from the back and feet!!

The Penis – Begin by admiring your partner’s penis. Tell him how much you love having it inside you. Describe how it feels to you when he’s thrusting away. As you talk, gently take his penis in your hands and lightly stroke it. Use a lubricant to give him a slow, meaningful hand-job. Take your time and don’t rush it. As you stroke, stop to kiss, lick, and gently suck his penis. Tell him how powerful and big he feels in your hands. Make it all about how wonderful his penis is, and about his ultimate pleasure.

The Clitoris/Labia – Begin by admiring your partner’s pussy. Tell her how beautiful it is. Describe how it feels inside, how it tastes. As you talk, gently open her lips and lightly stroke her. Use a lubricant for extra sensation. Take your time and don’t rush it. As you stroke, stop to kiss, lick, and gently suck on her lips and clit. Tell her how soft and silky she feels in your hands, how sweet she smells. If stroking is not enough, lap your tongue softly and slowly against her. The key is to go slow and to focus on the whole area, kissing and nibbling her clit and the surrounding areas. Make it all about how wonderful her pussy is, and about her ultimate pleasure.

The Bottom – Take cues from all of the areas above. And, ask your partner what their limits are! Some men and women may only like external worship such as massaging and stroking. Some men and women may be more adventurous, enjoying penetration with fingers and tongues, or licking and kissing around the anus.

In the end, this is about serving your partner and making them your entire focus. It does not need to be an act of foreplay that leads to sex. It can purely be an act of intimacy, a way to connect with each other on a deeper level. The best body worship leaves your partner feeling amazing and extraordinarily loved and special!

The Case for Setting the Mood

I don’t know about you, but I have a VERY busy schedule. I work a full-time, Monday through Friday job. I am raising a child. I have friends and social obligations. And there’s housework and errands… and granted, I am single right now. But, if I had a partner, there would be even more on my plate. So, at the end of the day, if there is time for sex, it would most likely be of the quickie variety.

Now don’t get me wrong – quickies are fun, too. I mean, sex is sex. Right? And even when it’s bad, it’s good. It’s like a scoop of ice cream – always a tasty treat. But, don’t you sometimes want hot fudge on your ice cream? Maybe even whipped cream and a cherry?

Well, you should think of sex the same way, too – sometimes it’s nice to dress it up with some extra flavors! Sometimes, you should take the time to set the mood. Sometimes, you should go the extra mile to make sex and experience. Why? Let me tell you…

• It breaks up the monotony. Simply taking a hot bubble bath together or lighting a few candles will mix things up.
• It inspires you… and your partner. Maybe your partner wasn’t in the mood. But, when they see that you took the time to sprinkle rose petals on the bed, they’ll relax and find a way to say “thank you”.
• It can bring out the passion you’ve been too busy to harness.
• But most of all, it makes your partner feel special, which in turn will make the sex more romantic and intimate.

So how can you set the mood? Here are a few tips:

• Invite your partner into the bedroom for an intimate massage. The thrill of touch will relax your partner, and bring you closer together. For this, try System Jo’s Lavender Massage Glide. Lavender has a calming effect and smells wonderful. Plus, the massage glide is silicone based and never leaves your skin feeling greasy, oily or tacky. What’s even better? This massage glide doubles as a lubricant!
• Run the hot water and treat your partner to a relaxing bubble bath. I suggest using Dona Cleanse bath foam. This is no ordinary bubble bath foam. It’s actually infused with aphrodisiacs to help you relax and increase sensuality!
• Buy your partner something sexy and set it out on the bed for them to try on. Help them undress slowly. Then, help them slip into the something special you’ve picked out. Once they’re ready, ask them to slowly undress you! Dressing and undressing each other can be very intimate and erotic. And check out our large selection of lingerie for inspiration on what you’d like them to wear!
• Make a unique love-making mix for your iPod. Dim the lights in the room and hit play! Then, ask your partner to join you in a slow dance. Want to make things even more sensual? Try a Club Vibe 2.OH. Club Vibe 2.OH is a revolutionary wireless remote control vibrator that beats to the rhythm of your music.
• Dim the lights and use scented candles to create an air of romance. And for this, I suggest any of our scented massage candles. These candles will fill your room with an alluring scent, And, they melt down into a sensual, warm, and edible  massaging oil!

So make some time to take your love-making from vanilla to hot fudge sundae! You won’t regret the effort!