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PORN… and lots of it!

I like porn. Is that weird?

If you’re a guy, you’re probably not all that impressed with my declaration. Most guys watch porn. But, if you asked most women, I bet they’d deny ever having watched it. There was a time that I was like that. I thought porn was degrading to women, a form of exploitation. At some point in my adult life, I began to lighten up and enjoy watching it – alone or with a partner. I no longer see it as a bad thing, but as a pleasurable thing that can enhance my masturbation or sex life with a partner.

For me, anal and girl-on-girl porn have the biggest turn-ons. I occasionally like Hentai, as there is something erotic about the domination and destruction of innocence that often happens in Hentai. And, I am more interested in realistic looking porn. The overly made-up and staged stuff doesn’t do it for me. I like my porn to look real, as if these two (or more) people just decided to get it on and happened to have a camera. I also like intense porn, where one act is focused on at length. All the switching up and changing acts or positions is too distracting. Got a girl munching down hard-core on another girl? Yes. Got a guy pounding away on an asshole while the girl cries in pain? Yes.

When I am alone, porn is a great escape. I’m a visual person and a creative person. I need that visual stimulation to get turned on. So, if I am masturbating, porn gets me going better than fantasizing does. But, it’s not only the visuals. In realistic porn, the audio gets me turned on, too. All that moaning and groaning really heightens my masturbation experience.

When I am with a partner, porn just makes it more interesting. I like to curl up next to someone and watch a video that may feature something we’d like to try. Or, maybe it’s something we like to do together already, and we just want to get the juices flowing. Besides, laying next to your partner, feeling them get hard because of the porn… that’s a big turn-on. And then while watching, touching each other or ourselves… that can be very hot! Also, have you ever allowed your partner to watch porn while you do whatever the porn-star is doing? It’s like your partner is getting to be in the porn. It’s like living out the fantasy of having sex with someone else without having to cheat.

And did you know that research shows porn can be beneficial for couples? Yes! It’s true! There are studies that show watching more porn results in increased sex drive and activity between partners, either when the partners watched it alone or together. Research has also shown that porn makes couples more spontaneous and less inhibited. So, not only were they more likely to have sex, more often, they were more likely to try new things! And, porn has been shown to improve your technique. Think about it… when watching porn, don’t you learn new tricks? Yes, yes you do!

If you’ve never watched porn, I can see how you’d be intimidated. The actors tend to have hot bodies, big boobs, and large dicks. But, try watching amateur porn. It’s full of people just like you and I. Want to give it a go? Try a free website like pornhub.com, yuvutu.com, or redtube.com. You can search by category and focus on what you like. Don’t want to search on the computer? Pick up a $9.99 video from our stores. We carry very tame titles and couples oriented videos for the faint of heart. Also, try watching the porn alone at first. If you don’t like it, you’ve only wasted your time and you haven’t gotten your partner’s hopes up. Then, if you do like it, mention it to your partner and see their eyes light up! I promise that anything you pick out, from wild to tame, will turn them on.

Sexy Ways to Survive Your Break-up!

I recently went through a break-up and it sucks! I’m not going to lie. I didn’t WANT to break up with my man. But, I also didn’t want to continue being with someone who couldn’t love me or take care of me the way I want and need to be loved and cared for. And even though I was the one who dumped him, it still hurts… and well, I’m sometimes lonely and bored without him because now I have more time to fill.

Maybe you’re in the same boat as me… just tired of bullshit and preferring to be alone. Or, maybe you were the one who was dumped. That REALLY sucks! Being dumped can really crush the spirit for a while. You’re going to be lonely and depressed until you realize it’s probably for the best that things happened the way they did.

But whether you were the dumper or dumpee, there are lots of sexy things to help you cope with a break-up…

1. Grab some condoms and have a one night stand… or three.

Now, I am not one to promote casual sex. It’s just not my thing. But, a SAFE, random romp with a stranger can temporarily make you feel sexy, wanted, and free. The sex can be as wild and uninhibited as you want it to be. And, a few one night stands will help ease the sexual tension you may feel as the result of losing your partner. Just remember to stop by our store and pick up some of the wide variety of condoms we sell. AND remember, it’s just s.e.x. It’s not a relationship and will likely never go anywhere. If you can do that, you can get the ego boost and sexual release that will help you over the break-up hump.

2. Masturbate… a lot.

The time after a break-up can be tough if you enjoyed the sex. So, invest in a high-quality sex toy or masturbator to ease the tension. Hey, a sex toy is a lot less complicated than a one night stand or friend with benefits… and a lot safer. Also, sex toys won’t make you feel miserable. They won’t hurt your feelings. They won’t bug you or blow up your phone. And, there are some AMAZING toys out there that almost make another person irrelevant. And pleasing yourself will help you resist the urge to run back to your ex just for the sake of sex!

For guys, I suggest a Tenga Fliphole. These toys won’t cause drama and are a lot cheaper than having a girlfriend!

For gals, I suggest any one of the OVO Rabbits. These toys are affordable, powerful, and durable… Probably more powerful and durable than your last boyfriend… and most likely much more dependable!

3. Update your underwear.

I know this might sound like a weird suggestion. But, hear me out… You wore that underwear to turn him or her on. So, chuck it! Burn it in the fireplace. Cut it up and mail it to him/her in a package. Whatever you do, get rid of it all. Then, come by one of our stores and pick up some sexy new underthings for guys or gals! Having sexy new underwear can really make you feel better. Just knowing you have on something underneath your jeans can make you exude an air of sexiness. And that will surely attract new people into your life… or at least give you back a little swagger in your walk.

4. Flirt… a lot.

It can take a while to let go of the feelings from a break-up, whether you were the dumper or dumpee. And, maybe you are not ready to rejoin the dating world because you don’t want new drama, or are afraid of getting hurt. But, you can and should flirt. Flirting boosts your ego, makes you smile, and is completely harmless. It will remind you that you are sexy and desirable. And even if you just aren’t ready for that next step, it will help you to see that there are a lot of fish in the sea.

5. Learn from it.

Learning from your mistakes is sexy. Why? Because knowing your needs and wants makes you a more confident person, and therefore a sexier person. Next time, you’ll know more about what you do and don’t want/need. You’ll look for someone who is interested in fulfilling your desires, as much as they are interested in having theirs fulfilled. You won’t settle for less. That knowledge confidence, and power is all extremely sexy!