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Lube 101: The Do’s and Dont’s of Lubrication

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Lube can be a great addition to your sex life. It can enhance the pleasurable sensations of sex and masturbation. Lube can also aid with vaginal dryness or discomfort. It can also provide flavor during oral sex, which also increase salivation. Plus, when used with condoms, lube increases pleasure for both partners and decreases the risk of condom breakage.

The three main types of lube are:

  • Water-Based – Water-based lubes rinse off easily from skin and fabric. They are generally cheaper and easier to find than silicone-based lube. And, they are less likely to cause yeast infections.
  • Silicone-Based – Silicone lubes are oil-based, last longer than water-based lube, and are best for anal sex.
  • Flavored – Flavored lubes are usually a water-based lube with flavor added. They can come in a huge variety of flavors and are best for oral sex, especially when using a condom.

Do’s and Don’ts with lubrication:

DO: Know how to use lube. Add a drop inside the condom before sex to increase sensation for the man. Add a few drops to the outside of the condom to reduce friction and breakage. Reapply as needed.

DON’T: Use flavored lube that contains sugar for vaginal sex. The sugars in some flavored lube can cause yeast infections. Make sure you purchase a flavored lube that is sugar-free, if you plan to use it for vaginal sex.

DON’T: Use an oil-based product as lube with condoms or sex-toys. Oil-based products rapidly degrade latex condoms and many of the materials sex-toys are made of! Oil-based products include Vaseline, baby oil, olive oil, chocolate syrup, whipped cream, and hand or body lotion. As a rule of thumb, do not use any cooking or beauty products as lube; only use products specifically designed for sex.

DO: Use lube for anal sex…. every time! Lube is a must for anal sex. Since the anus is not self-lubricating, anal sex without lube is painful and risky. Friction during anal sex can cause tears to the tissue, increasing risk of STIs, including HIV. To reduce tearing and increase pleasure, apply lube (and a condom) before penetration, and reapply as needed.

DO: Use silicone-based lube during anal sex. Because the anus and rectum absorb water, silicone-based lube lasts longer than water-based lube. If the only lube available to you is water-based lube, use it and reapply often.

And as always, we carry a HUGE selection of brands and styles of lubes: water-based, silicone, flavored, gel, organic, warming, cooling, stimulating, couple’s, hybrid, and more!

http://thereddoorstore.com/index.php/lotions-and-potions/lubes

The Business of Ohs

When people find out what I do for a living, they have two reactions: “OH, er, uhm…” or “Ohhhh! That sounds like a fun job”. And to be honest, my job is FULL of oh’s… So their reaction is fitting. But, you may wonder what it’s actually like to work in a sex shop. I bet that based on those two reactions, you have the wrong idea.

Let’s address the first kind of “OH”. That’s the reaction I get from folks who are sketched out by sex… the ones who are scared to talk about it out loud. That’s the response I get from people too embarrassed to actually shop in person at a sex store. And therein lies the misconception that produces that kind of “OH”, the wide-eyes and awkward moment, dropped like a lead balloon on my feet kind of “OH”. It’s ok to be private about your sex life. I’m not saying that you should be wildly open about it. But sex itself, or working in a sex shop, should in fact NOT be embarrassing or awkward. They shouldn’t be because sex is a natural thing. It’s a wonderful thing when shared between two people who care about each other. And even if they don’t care about each other, it can still be a tremendously fun activity. Finding ways to please yourself and/or your partner should not be a bad thing. Helping you discover those ways is part of my job. It actually makes me feel good to help you feel good. I find it fulfilling. So do my coworkers.

And what about that second kind of “Ohhhhh”? Well, yes, it is a fun job. But, it’s not ALL fun and games. I take it seriously. Many people come in because they don’t know how to achieve pleasure. They are unhappy in their sex lives and really want help. That’s no fun for them at all. Those kinds of situations require more tact and sensitivity than fun… Or they come in because they have erectile dysfunction… Or they’ve had a female or male related cancer and are experiencing issues with sexual intercourse. Those are delicate situations that I don’t handle with fun. I handle them with compassion and care. The bottom line is that you encounter so many types of people, with a huge variety of desires, needs, and wants. You can’t always assume that it’s all fun and games.

It’s a very HUMAN job, where people are open about their most basic needs, wants, and desires. We’re dealing with such a private aspect of our customers’ lives. We want everyone to feel comfortable in our store – whether they are in happy or unhappy, open or closed,  or worried or secure in their sex lives. And yes… it is often fun, because sex SHOULD be fun and enjoyable. So, let’s throw those other “ohs” out the window! Let’s focus on “ohs” I like to hear… because in this business, we’re definitely about the o’s…