The Case for High End Toys… by Danny Z

Often as I was growing up, my mother would tell me, “buy the best you can afford.” It’s something that has stuck with me as an adult. Of course we’ve all heard the saying, “you get what you pay for.” I’m cool with that. I understand that not everything is made to last, quality is relative, and rarely does something cheap last. But buying the best you can afford is a little different. It requires the understanding of the value of an item.

See, I am the kind of person who only wants to purchase something once. I’ll buy exactly what I want, even if I had to save up for it. And since I am on a budget, my money is important to me! With that in mind, I do my research ahead of time and want to make sure I don’t waste my money. I do this with almost anything I buy, from vitamins to replacement parts for my bicycle. Amazon and customer reviews are my best friends. They help me justify any purchase I make! And since I am an avid instore buyer, I need that feedback to feel confident in my purchase. Overall, I understand that I am paying a little more here and there for quality. But with that financial sacrifice, I am rewarded with many advantages.

In the world of sex toys, the same principles apply. There are low quality vibes for those on a budget. There’s the mid grade stuff… the stuff that will last a little longer and can handle a little aggression. Then there are the high end toys, which are a completely different level of quality and pleasure. I am not trying to sell you on high end toys, that high end is only the way to go. I love all the product lines we sell. But, I believe in quality and want you to be happy with your purchase. So, as a person who rarely experiences buyer’s remorse, I feel that I should share my wisdom with customers.

Why high end toys? Many of them come with a warranty of a year or more, whereas lower/mid quality toys usually only come with a 30 day warranty. Some higher end toys even have three year and to 15 year warranties. That’s insane! That’s like a car warranty! And it says something about the toys… It says that the manufacturer strongly believes in the quality and durability of their products. That is comforting to know, that my money is coming with the promise that it is not going to waste! No one wants to be disappointed by a manufacturer’s defect, if you know what I mean.

And speaking of quality, almost all high end toys are rechargeable and water proof (literally submergable, like you can play with it in the tub without a worry in the world). They are also made with better quality materials such as medical grade silicone and superior motors. In fact, the motors/vibrations on high toys tend to be faster and/or deeper than less expensive toys. So not only are you paying for quality and durability, your paying for stronger orgasms and greater pleasure!

Whether you need to stick to a budget or you want to splurge, research the products ahead of time! Ask questions! We are here to help, and there is a ton of great information online about most of our toys. At the end of the day, we want you to be happy with your purchase, even if it was with one of our lesser priced toys. But remember what my mom said… “buy the best you can afford.” I don’t think you can ever go wrong with that!

PORN… and lots of it!

I like porn. Is that weird?

If you’re a guy, you’re probably not all that impressed with my declaration. Most guys watch porn. But, if you asked most women, I bet they’d deny ever having watched it. There was a time that I was like that. I thought porn was degrading to women, a form of exploitation. At some point in my adult life, I began to lighten up and enjoy watching it – alone or with a partner. I no longer see it as a bad thing, but as a pleasurable thing that can enhance my masturbation or sex life with a partner.

For me, anal and girl-on-girl porn have the biggest turn-ons. I occasionally like Hentai, as there is something erotic about the domination and destruction of innocence that often happens in Hentai. And, I am more interested in realistic looking porn. The overly made-up and staged stuff doesn’t do it for me. I like my porn to look real, as if these two (or more) people just decided to get it on and happened to have a camera. I also like intense porn, where one act is focused on at length. All the switching up and changing acts or positions is too distracting. Got a girl munching down hard-core on another girl? Yes. Got a guy pounding away on an asshole while the girl cries in pain? Yes.

When I am alone, porn is a great escape. I’m a visual person and a creative person. I need that visual stimulation to get turned on. So, if I am masturbating, porn gets me going better than fantasizing does. But, it’s not only the visuals. In realistic porn, the audio gets me turned on, too. All that moaning and groaning really heightens my masturbation experience.

When I am with a partner, porn just makes it more interesting. I like to curl up next to someone and watch a video that may feature something we’d like to try. Or, maybe it’s something we like to do together already, and we just want to get the juices flowing. Besides, laying next to your partner, feeling them get hard because of the porn… that’s a big turn-on. And then while watching, touching each other or ourselves… that can be very hot! Also, have you ever allowed your partner to watch porn while you do whatever the porn-star is doing? It’s like your partner is getting to be in the porn. It’s like living out the fantasy of having sex with someone else without having to cheat.

And did you know that research shows porn can be beneficial for couples? Yes! It’s true! There are studies that show watching more porn results in increased sex drive and activity between partners, either when the partners watched it alone or together. Research has also shown that porn makes couples more spontaneous and less inhibited. So, not only were they more likely to have sex, more often, they were more likely to try new things! And, porn has been shown to improve your technique. Think about it… when watching porn, don’t you learn new tricks? Yes, yes you do!

If you’ve never watched porn, I can see how you’d be intimidated. The actors tend to have hot bodies, big boobs, and large dicks. But, try watching amateur porn. It’s full of people just like you and I. Want to give it a go? Try a free website like pornhub.com, yuvutu.com, or redtube.com. You can search by category and focus on what you like. Don’t want to search on the computer? Pick up a $9.99 video from our stores. We carry very tame titles and couples oriented videos for the faint of heart. Also, try watching the porn alone at first. If you don’t like it, you’ve only wasted your time and you haven’t gotten your partner’s hopes up. Then, if you do like it, mention it to your partner and see their eyes light up! I promise that anything you pick out, from wild to tame, will turn them on.

Why I want lesbian sex and other musings…

I like women almost as much as I like men. I identify as straight for the most part, because I’m more inclined to have relationships with men. However, I am just as pleased by sex with women as I am with men. And unfortunately, it’s been a while since I have had the pleasure of being sexually intimate with a woman. I miss that…

I was in an on-again, off-again relationship with a man for the last few years. I didn’t feel comfortable developing a relationship with a woman on the side, for a few reasons. First of all, it felt wrong to me. Ultimately, I am a monogamous person. I like to be with one person at a time. And so, I denied that side of myself for the sake of the relationship.

Honestly, I am not opposed to threesomes or open relationships. I’ve certainly had a few damn good threesomes in my life! But, I find that I need to have them outside of a relationship, just for the fun of it, no strings attached. Within a relationship, I think it’s a recipe for trouble. Or maybe I just haven’t been with a person that could handle something like that and still maintain my trust.

So that leads me to my second reason for abandoning female companionship… I didn’t trust this guy. It’s true. I felt that if I introduced another woman to our relationship, he’d become greedy. I also didn’t trust him to remain mine. To me, another woman would’ve been a gift he would’ve taken advantage of, and I could totally see him ruining what we had because of it.

But we’re not together now and I miss the company of women… Le sigh…

Being with a woman, to me, is a much more sensual experience. Why?

Women are soft. Our bodies are curved and luscious. We smell and taste sweet. Even with urgency, passion, or roughness, during sex, there is still an edge of delicateness to everything.

Women understand each others bodies better. A woman knows a vagina like the back of her hand because she has one. She knows what will please a woman because she is one. She knows the sensitive areas because she has them.

We can handle each other with a knowledge and care that men just don’t seem to possess. We can talk to each other about our needs without fear of hurting a sensitive male ego.

I think I’ve mentioned a few of my desires and fantasies before… I love clit grinding. Two female bodies rubbing together for mutual pleasure is about the hottest thing I can think of! I also love going down on a woman. The soft, fleshy feel of a woman against your face and tongue is so much more erotic than having a pole shoved down your throat. And then there are breasts… Who does not like round, luscious breasts? Even most gay men can admire a nice set of boobs. Or what about fingers? Women have soft fingers and are much more delicate when using them. The idea of a woman stroking me through my panties really makes me feel warm and fuzzy. And honestly, sex toys are mostly made for women. So, there are so many ways you can tease and play with each other using toys. It keeps things from getting too boring when you have to be creative and use toys, fingers, and tongues!

Now that I am single again, I’m going to explore my desires. But for now, I am going to explore myself and update my dating profile to “bi”. I hope that the next time I report back, my musings are about how much I enjoyed the lesbian sex I’ve been having…

For strap-ons, vibrators, bondage gear and more, please visit us online at http://thereddoorstore.com/index.php/!

What’s a girl to do?

I love sex. Have I mentioned that before? I think I have…

But have I ever told you that it’s hard working for a sex shop? You have to work around all this arousing stuff. You get toys for a deep discount and free items from vendors. You amass a black bag the size of a Samsonite, filled with dildos, vibrators, gags, bullets, lubes, butt plugs, restraints, cock rings and more. You have to research products and sex techniques and fetishes. Therefore, you learn more about sex all of the time. You fantasize all of the time. You stay horny all.of.the.time.

Oh sure… You’re thinking, “What’s so hard about that?!?!” Well, for one thing, it’s really hard to find someone adventurous enough to explore all those things you’ve got going on in your head. Yeah, men and women alike will talk a big game with me. But when it comes right down to it, they get scared. They’re intimidated by me and my toy arsenal. They’re worried they might not be able to keep up with me, or that they’ll disappoint me. I get that. I do. But, I want that smack-talking guy with the big dick to walk right in and pull my hair and take me… not one that punks out, loses their erection, or cums after 2 minutes. UGH!

Also, I get bored very easily. I crave exploration. I am surrounded by variety. I am sexually curious every day because I learn new things every day. So, when a lover begins to fall into a routine of plain vanilla sex, I get bored. BORED. I want to try that new position I’ve read about. I want to use my new toys. I want to role-play and act out those fantasies. Don’t give me vanilla every night – give me a new flavor, or at least throw on some freaking sprinkles! UGH!

And now you’re probably thinking, “Surely she must be ugly or mean? It can’t be that hard for a girl to get laid!” Well first off, I’m attractive and curvy. Secondly, I’m one of the nicest, most generous people you’ll ever meet. And to be honest, I’m actually very monogamous and won’t sleep around. I won’t have casual sex because it’s risky for my health… Uh, STD’s anyone? And really, it’s not good for your emotional well-being. But more importantly, it ends up being a colossal waste of time. The smack-talker who said they could match me tit for tat ends up being horrible in bed. HORRIBLE. UGH!

So, YES, it is that hard for me to get laid… and even harder for me to get laid the way I want to be. Why? See above. I’m picky and hard to please. I want thrills and adventure. I want someone who can keep up with me physically and mentally. And, I won’t have casual sex. All of that adds up to me not being willing to have sex with just anyone… and me not getting laid. UGH!

So, what’s a girl to do?

 

 

Just a Taste… By Medusa

Aphrodite, the ancient Greek god of sexual love and beauty, introduced the concept of aphrodisiacs to help enhance our desire, excitement, stamina, and performance. Aphrodisiacs work via our senses, including sight, smell, touch, sound, and taste. Finding which sense is most enticing gives you a chance to further explore your sexuality and create more fulfilling and bold sexual experiences. And, I’ve discovered my favorite type of aphrodisiac…

I’m something of a foodophile. I feel sexually aroused by consuming or being in contact with food… not junk food, but fresh, beautiful, healthy food! And, no I’m not humping asparagus or pineapples. Like seeing your main squeeze, I get giddy about food. A tingling, light-headed sensation flows over my body. My skin becomes flushed. My eyes get big. My heart rate increases. Even my nipples become erect! Mmm… Its time to devour this plate of yummy goodness!

I have an affinity for certain foods – seafood, fresh fruits, and spices like cayenne pepper really get me going. The smells lifting from a honey-glazed salmon doused with lemon zest can send me to another place… like laying on the warm sands of my favorite beach with my partner as the sun sets and we inhale the ocean breeze. Biting into a ripe, fuzzy peach, licking the sweet juice dribbling from my lips? This sends me into the sweet memories of my first kiss. Sipping hot chocolate with a dash of cayenne pepper? My body warms up, like the sensation I get from being entangled in a deep, Winter embrace with the one I love.

I guess you could say my love for food and sexual intimacy go hand in hand for me. I’ve noticed that excitement for savory delights follow me into the bedroom. These foods can make me feel energized, alluring, alive…

After realizing these goodies have become profound aphrodisiacs for me, I spoke with my partner to see if we could incorporate a few  food items in bed. He agreed. Enthralled by the opportunity of getting my two loves together in one room without a table, I ran for the kitchen grabbing our favorites. Honey, chocolate syrup, and various fruits were gathered for the adventure. I blindfolded my partner and placed one cold strawberry on his lips. We took turns with the blindfold, placing each treat delicately on each others bodies, licking away the delicious residue they left.

The next morning we were sticky… VERY sticky. The night before had been a dream filled with luscious flavors and my lover. Why did I have to wake up sticky?! One word – sugar. Everything had sugar in it! We stuck to the bed sheets and each other. My fantasy turned into an infants high-chair.

The next day I went into work determined to find alternatives that would be equally as intoxicating, but mush less messy. There, I found a magical land of decadent oils, lubricants, gels, and even honey dust! Overjoyed by the treasure chest of options, I tested as many edibles as possible. Tasting the products that mirrored my favorite flavors and scents, I chose one oil, one lubricant, and one honey dust. Then, I prepared myself for a smooth, sensual, stickiness free evening! Not only was our evening less messy, it was more enjoyable. Using flavored intimate products is much better for your body, more hygienic. Also, the flavoring increase your salivary response, which will increase the natural lubrication you need for all oral pleasures.

One of our most sensually pleasing brands is Kama Sutra. This luxury brand of intimate products supplies a host of edibles – flavored massage oils, candied body dusts, savory and sweet lubes, and rich and creamy body soufflés. Only the gift of love itself could be more intoxicating than these tasty delights.

Another of our sensual menu items? All of the flavored lubes from System Jo… These high-quality, water-based lubricants come in such a huge variety of flavors. You’ll feel like the proverbial kid in a candy store! Chocolate, pomegranate, raspberry, lemon, tropical fruit, cherry, strawberry, banana, cherry… Something for every palate… and every body part.

Want to expand your own menu? Check out our edible lubes, oils and lotions, and more!

Penis Pumps 101… by Danny Z

These days, I find myself getting more and more questions about our penis pumps. I am not happy about the narrow-mindedness most of the questions, though. It seems that most customers believe pumps are “for people with problems”. However, that is not always the case. To me, it’s like saying people who use straws when they drink must have neck problems. Using a penis pump doesn’t mean you have a problem. Maybe you do. But maybe, you just like the fullness it brings to your erection. Or, perhaps you just like the sucking sensation.

Yes, people who have erectile dysfunction, blood pressure problems, or diabetes can use the pumps to achieve and maintain an erection. Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “I don’t have any of those issues. Why would I want to use a pump?” Well, penis pumps will actually help ANY penis reach max potential in length and thickness. Don’t get me wrong… it won’t make your penis bigger. BUT, it will make it the biggest it can be… and that is always a plus!

How can a penis pump help you reach max potential? It does so by gently sucking on the penis, therefore increasing blood flow to the penis. So basically, it enhances the natural process that causes erections in the first place. The increased blood flow is maintained with the use of a cock ring, which you slide on after you remove the pump. This restricts the blood from leaving the penis, and maintains the girth effect pumps provide. The rings are used during intercourse or masturbation, and will help you last longer and cum bigger. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never complained about an orgasm being too powerful! So, that’s a side effect of using penis pumps that I am completely ok with…

Now, let’s talk about how you actually use a penis pump. First, I suggest getting a little aroused. Then, slip the cock ring down your shaft with the help of your favorite water based lubricant. Next, place a little bit of water based lube on the rim of the penis pump. This will help ease of entry. Then, slide your penis into the shaft of the pump and make sure it fits securely. Start squeezing the pump, slowly at first until you get used to the sensation. There will be a slight feeling of restriction. But if there is any discomfort, ease off the pumping or stop completely. In other words, be cautious when pumping. Pumps restrict and contract the veins in the penis. If you get over zealous, there is a possibility of injury. Be safe and play nice. Once you have pump your penis to your desired erection, slide out gently! If you want to remove the cock ring, simply slide it off. It’s easier to get off with the aid of a little lube. Otherwise, leave it on the cock ring and have at it!

I hope you give one of our penis pumps a try. It’s not for everyone. But, it can bring another dimension to your sex life or masturbation time. So, pump it up and get it on!

Suggested Pumps:

I like anything from the Pump Worx line by Pipedream. They are reasonably priced and of good quality. They also offer a large variety of pumps that offer different sensations and functions like vibration.

I’m also a fan of the James Deen brand pump. It is also reasonably priced and of good quality. Plus, it has a gauge to help you remember your desired level of pressure.

Also, check out our pump selection online! http://thereddoorstore.com/index.php/fun-with-toys/pumps/mens-pumps

You Put Your Junk In It… by Danny Z

I feel as though I was raised in a macho-man bubble as a child. Every time I saw a man in the media, he would always be a MANLY… the kind of men who wore boxers and would never purchase sexy underwear for fear of embarrassment. But, as I have gotten older, I realize wearing sexy man underwear is not such a bad thing.

Which brings me to my point of discussion… We carry men’s underwear in the store. I have always been a little curious about some of the styles.  Recently, I was fortunate enough to be given a pair of these “designer” underwear as a gift. They were a pair of our Andrew Christian briefs. I was anxious to try them on, as I have always been a die-hard boxer man. But, I have heard a lot of positive things about them from customers.

Here are my thoughts about them… The briefs are created from a very comfortable, silky smooth cotton blend. They’re a LOT more comfortable than the regular packaged boxers that I usually purchase. The pair I received have a pouch for the penis. The pouch is designed to separate the shaft from the testicles. The separation increases blood flow to the shaft, making my penis look thicker and longer. The briefs also hug tightly to my testicles, creating a more form-enhancing fit and giving me some swing control. While the pouch was a little weird at first, it took me very little time for me to get uses to the feeling. By having the pouch, it helps my penis avoid having to pick which pant leg it would it would like to hang out in for the day! Instead, it rests comfortably upfront, like a proud trophy.

At this point, you guys may be skeptical. But, I love the way they feel. I can sit for hours, without the constant leg shakes or thrust ups to keep my genitals comfortable. And, there are a lot of times I wear jeans or dress pants that, ahem, make my privates a little more public. These are my go to underwear for times like that. They actually make my pants fit better!

Whether you want to feel sexy, more in control of your manhood, or just want a better profile in your pants, you should try one of our many styles of men’s underwear. From boxer-briefs to briefs to thongs, we have something for all you manly men! I promise you will be pleasantly surprised… and so will that special someone in your life!

The Case for Lingerie

 

 

 

 

 

Let’s face it… If you are a woman, you more than likely have an oversized t-shirt you sleep in. It’s more than likely has a hole or two in it. Maybe it’s even got a stain… or two. Or, you have your comfortable PJ’s – tried and true, soft from the years of wear and repeated laundering. Perhaps you’re sassier than that. You sleep in the nude, or just panties.

There’s nothing wrong with any of the above sleep apparel habits. Nothing at all. But, if your love life is suffering, or you want to spice things up, all of the above are missing one thing – LINGERIE.

I know what you’re thinking…
… “Men don’t care about lingerie. They look at it for a few seconds, then ask you to take it off so they can get down to business.”
… “I can’t find anything that makes me look sexy.”
… “I can’t stand all those strings and hooks and itchy lace.”
… “I sleep naked. I don’t need lingerie.”

Stop. Stop right there. You’re wrong, about all of the above. And here’s why…

Lingerie isn’t just for men. It’s for you, too! The right lingerie can make you feel sexy and pretty and all around more confident about yourself. And all those things combined can and will improve your sex life. So, leave it on during the whole act if it helps you feel your sexiest.

And, you CAN find something that makes you look sexy. Lingerie doesn’t have to be skimpy or stringy. There is abundance of gorgeous lingerie in all kinds of styles and fit, for all shapes and sizes. Pick out something that covers your trouble spots and you WILL feel sexy! Small bust? Pick a style with molded cups to give you some extra oomph! Short legs? Pick a short chemise to make your legs look longer. Carrying extra weight or have a mom belly? Wear a A-line style that is fitted at the top and flares out to mask your belly. Self-conscious about your whole body? Wear an extra long satin negligee with a large slit up the side, for a glamorous, old-Hollywood look.

And lingerie doesn’t have to uncomfortable. There are plenty of fabric options when it comes to lingerie – satin, soft stretchy mesh, cotton/poly jersey blends, and more. Don’t fool yourself into believing that more lace, ribbons, and hooks = sexier. Even a cute cotton-blend bra and panty set can be super sexy! Don’t like G-strings? Find a sexy black panty to wear with any of the lingerie styles that may come with a thong. The substitution will look just as hot, and you won’t feel like your picking floss out our your crack. Or skip the panties all together!

And, even if you sleep naked, lingerie can benefit your sexy life. There’s something sexy about mystery, and lingerie provides mystery… even if just a little. Lingerie makes discovering your body like unwrapping a special present. Make taking lingerie off by giving your partner the slow tease with a private strip-show. Plus, leaving lingerie on during sex can be extremely erotic. Think of how it feels to have your panties slowly removed by your partner, or simply pushed aside so he can please you… It’s feels HOT! I’m telling ya!

I’m not saying to throw out your oversized tees and extra-loved PJ’s. I’m just saying that every now and then, you should put on that hot pink teddy or black mesh bodysuit. It can give your everyday sex life a little extra ooh-la-la! Need something new and sexy? Check out our online lingerie selection – http://thereddoorstore.com/index.php/boudoir-sexy. Like what you see? Visit any one of our 3 Charlotte locations for an even BIGGER selection of Missy and Plus size lingerie, hosiery, and corsets.

BDSM 101: Kinky Basics for Everyone

Maybe you already know what BDSM is, and going a little further intrigues you. Perhaps you’ve dabbled with spanking your partner. Or, maybe you’ve tied each other up with scarves. But now, you want to try more BDSM fun in the bedroom.

Or, maybe you’ve never heard of BDSM. Perhaps, you’re intimidated by the idea. Or, maybe you just don’t know how to get started, but would be interested in trying something like this in the bedroom.

Well, this is your primer for BDSM. I’m going to give you some basic ideas to get your kinky juices flowing!

First of all, let’s define BDSM:

B = bondage – using restraints as part of an intimate relationship

D = domination – a dominant partner controlling and/or punishing a submissive partner

S & M = sadism and masochism – giving (s) and receiving (m) pleasure from pain

Getting started… When getting started with any BDSM activity, talk to your partner FIRST! Discuss what you would like to try and come up with a game plan. It’s important to set up boundaries before you ever venture down this road. Why? It’s because many BDSM activities require a high level of trust between partners. So, talk, talk, talk about what you will and won’t do! Then, decide on a safe word, or code word, to use with your partner when you want things to stop. Remember, it’s ok to stop and regroup. You should never feel like you can’t trust your partner!

Now, let’s break everything down. I’m going to give you some basic ideas according to where they fall in the BDSM spectrum. Some of them might not be your thing, and that’s ok! The idea is to spice things up within YOUR comfort zone.

Bondage – There are so many easy ways to incorporate bondage into your sex life!

• Grab a leash and walk your partner around the bedroom
• Use furry handcuffs or silk rope to restrict your partner’s use of their hands, or to lock them to a bedpost or chair
• Try a ball gag to muffle your partner’s pleas for mercy or cries of ecstasy
• Use a spreader bar to restrict the use of your partner’s legs
• Go all the way and use hog ties or wrist and leg cuffs to completely restrict your partner’s movements

Domination – This is all about one person being in charge, with the other relinquishing control.

• Pretend your partner is your love slave and have them work to earn their freedom by doing anything you say
• Control your partner by repeatedly stimulating them, but not allowing them to have an orgasm
• Role play having one of you be the servant (think French maid, pool boy, love robot, etc.)
• Try a remote controlled panty vibe where you or your partner is in charge of the amount of stimulation received
• Use a blindfold and do not allow your partner to see what you’re about to do next

S&M – This is all about giving and/or receiving pain. But, it doesn’t mean you have to hurt each other. Start on the softer side with any of these suggestions and work your way up to more intensity!

• Try using nipple clamps for an exciting pinch
• Pick up a paddle, riding crop, or leather flogger, then lightly smack each other on sensitive areas
• Drip hot wax onto each other’s backsides
• Try an electro-stimulation kit on sensitive areas with the dial set to low
• Use your teeth to gently bite sensitive areas

Want to try some of the ideas above? Check out our BDSM selection online. You’ll find many items to help you get started.

Want to try some harder stuff? Do your research! Talk to your partner about your desires AND boundaries. And, the visit one of our 3 Charlotte are stores. We have a much larger, and kinkier, selection of BDSM items in-store.

 

Oral Sex 101: Tips for Great Oral!

Oral sex… *Sigh*

If you’re anything like me, you’ve had a man boast that he is awesome at going down. He raves about the compliments he’s received in the past. But, when he starts pleasuring you, it either feels like a beaver gnawing on your privates or like a Dyson has locked on to your clit! Or for you guys, there’s the girl who boasts of her skills in sucking dick. But when she’s down there, she barely moves her lips and throat around your shaft, and mostly uses her hands. Or, she really sucks… like s Dyson has locked on to your dick!

I know that everyone likes something different when it comes to getting off. Maybe you like the above oral sex techniques. I’m not judging… But, listen up all you Dyson-mouthed folks! When done with some skill and attention, oral sex can be a much more amazing experience than the ones I’ve had above! So, here are my tips on how to give great oral sex…

These tips are for everyone:

1. Start fresh! A shower can go a long way in making oral much more pleasant for the giver! And if you’re receiving the oral, being clean will make you more comfortable and at ease.

2. Communicate! Tell your partner up front what you like and don’t like. During the oral, give encouragement or softly spoken suggestions. Moaning and groaning works, too!

3. Reciprocate! Reciprocate! Reciprocate! If you don’t like to give, it really discourages your partner from wanting to give. So, do unto to others as you would have done to you!

 

If you’re going down on her:

1. Slow down! It’s not a race! Warp speed tongue action does nothing but frustrate the average women. And most likely, a steady build will create a much more intense orgasm for her.

2. Don’t munch the rug! Teeth are ok… but that means a little nibble here or there. Repetitive gnawing is not really a pleasurable feeling for most women.

3. Yes, sucking on my clit is a pleasurable feeling… when done lightly! Don’t go all Dyson on me!

4. Don’t like to go down because of the “taste”? Well that’s not fair. Consider using a flavored lube and get to licking! Not only will it taste good to you, it actually enhances the feeling for me.

5. Apply a little pressure. Light licks will tease me. Mixing in firmer licks will get me there.

 

If you’re going down on him:

1. Take him deeply into your mouth and stroke up and down, allowing him to feel the back of your throat. I know this seems basic. But, many of us who give blow-jobs end up focusing solely on the head of the penis. That can be too intense or frustrating for a man. Think of your mouth as a vagina. How would a man use his penis in vagina? Would he just poke the tip in repeatedly? NO! He goes all in and then almost all out. Do the same with your mouth!

2. Don’t be a Dyson. Lightly sucking, yes. Creating an oral vortex, no. Sucking dick doesn’t mean literally turning your mouth into a vacuum.

3. Try a little flavored lube. If you’re like me, sometimes your mouth gets dry. A dry mouth is no fun for anyone. Using lube will keep the moisture up and the friction down.

4. Some guys like a little teeth. Gently graze the back side of his shaft with your teeth. But, don’t go all cheese grater on him!

5. Use your tongue. Running the tongue along the back of his shaft and the head of his penis adds that extra wow factor. Also, using your tongue to gently apply pressure as you move up and down can create a tighter feel for him.

 

Read these tips! Study them! Master them! Don’t be that person who boasts of your skills, but disappoints in the bedroom. Don’t be the beaver gnawing away or the Dyson set to VORTEX. Just don’t. 🙂