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Fun Things to Do with Lube!

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Lube is always a great addition to your sex life. It can be used to enhance the pleasurable sensations of sex and masturbation. Lube can also aid with vaginal dryness or discomfort. Plus, it can provide flavor during oral sex, which also increases salivation. And when used with condoms, lube increases pleasure for both partners and decreases the risk of condom breakage. Want to know more? Read here to discover all the fun you can have with lube!

  • Spread a warming lube like Wet’s Warming Gel on his balls. Then, give him oral while lightly massaging his balls.
  • Slip a few drops of lube inside his condom before he slips it on. The added sensation will feel amazing for him.
  • Slick up any of your sex toys or vibes with a water-based lube like Pjur’s Woman Aqua Gel. Then, hand the toy over to your partner to use on you!
  • Put a few drops of warming lube on your hands. Then, give him a slick hand job he’ll never forget.
  • Drop some warming lube into a masturbator like a Climax Gem Stroker. Then give him a life-like masturbation experience!
  • Spread a strawberry-flavored lube on his cock and lick it like a lollipop. Try Sex Tart’s Strawberry Punch lube for a true candy taste!
  • Slick lube on your boobs. Then, slide your boobs up and down his back for a super hot massage!
  • Spread warming lube between your ta-tas. Then, gently guide his penis in and out of your cleavage.
  • Give each other a sexy back massage using a few drops of a massage glide such as System Jo’s Warming Massage Glide. Glides are an all-in-one lube that act as a massage oil AND personal lubricant!
  • While you go down on him, lube up your thumb and use it to massage the spot between his balls and rectum.
  • Drizzle a flavored lube on your labia and clitoris and have your partner lick it off while trying to guess the flavor.
  • Spread cooling lube like System Jo’s H2O Cooling lube on your fingers. Then, use them to massage each others nipples. You can also blow on them for an added sensation!
  • Tell your partner they can only use their hands on you. Spread a few drops of lube on their hands and let them go at it.
  • Lay a towel down on your bed. Then, cover your bodies in a silicone lube such as Liquid Sex Silicone. Finally, enjoy the erotic sensation of sliding up and down each other’s bodies while you get it on.
  • Keep a small bottle of lube hidden behind the shampoo for spontaneous wet fun! We suggest Sex in the Shower Lube, which is specially formulated for sex in water!

Got a fun idea to share? Let us know!

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The Art of Sexless Sex

Let me paint a picture for you… Late night, stars out, bubbling hot tub, cocktail in hand, music playing, no one around. Bathing suit comes off, hands start roaming… and my clit is directed to a jet IN one of the seats (thank you to the genius who thought THAT up). I’m being kissed and my nipples are being pinched, sucked on, and teased. And before I know it, I’m collapsing against his chest, completely satisfied and exhausted… I just had sexless sex with my partner – completely satisfying, intense, and intimate.

This may not be a news flash to most of my readers, but… Sex doesn’t have to include penetration. The misconception that “real” sex requires intercourse just isn’t true! Great sex can come in many shapes, sizes, colors, sexual orientations, positions… and can be completely non-intercourse related! This is what I call “sexless sex”, having sex without intercourse. These forms of sex can be so mid-blowing that we all should try more sexless sex and erotic play!

So, this blog is all about skipping the penetration! It’s about delving deeper into sexual play and creating greater intimacy with your partner. It’s about creating a sensual environment where both of you can try new things and practice other erotic activities. It’s about finding sexual satisfaction without needing penetration. And here are some ideas for you to try…

  • For him, use a warming lube and both hands. Grip his cock between your palms and use a twisting motion as you slide up and down.
    Or, grab a masturbation toy, load it up with a warming lube, and jerk him off.
  • Don’t want to do the work? Let him rub his own cock with his hands or the toy while you tease his nipples and/or prostate.
  • For her, use a cooling lube to finger her clit and pussy. The extra tingle will heighten her pleasure.
  • Or, grab a g-spot vibrator and fuck her with it while you tease her ass and/or clit.
  • Grab a suction-cup dong and attach it to a chair or wall. Have her fuck it while she gives you a hand-job or sucks your dick.
  • Position yourselves in a 69, where you are laying on your sides. Lick and suck each other. Use your hands on each other. Hell, throw in some toys, too, for the ultimate 69!
  • Read an erotic story out loud to each other, masturbating as you read. You can mix it up by taking turns touching each other, and then only touching yourselves.
  • Have your partner videotape you pleasing yourself. Then, watch it together while you partner takes a turn getting off.
  • If you don’t have a hot tub, jump in the shower. Use the shower head to pleasure her.
  • For him, use the shower head to stimulate his prostate as he jerks off. Or, have him hold the shower head over his cock as you jerk him off.
  • Grab a vibrating sponge and lather each other into a passion.
  • Take a hot bath together. Hold her in your arms and position her clit against the warm water filling the tub. Tease her nipples as she gets off. Then, have her return the favor with a blow-job or hand-job, as you sit back and relax.
  • Grab a sensual massage oil and give each other sensual massages with happy endings.
  • Take turns giving each other oral. Or, spend time in a 69, only allowing tongues and mouths to do the work!
  • Manually stimulate each other through your clothes in a very public place.
  • Grab some lube and grind up against each other. Allow him to rub his cock between your breasts, butt cheeks, or vaginal lips until he comes. For her, rub the head of his cock against your clit, or jump on top and grind your pussy on his hard dick.
  • Even if you are in the same house, try having phone sex. Or, jump on your laptops and face cams. Set them up so you can each see the other person masturbating. Then, masturbate to a real-time porno by your lover!

As you can see, foreplay does not have to be the appetizer. It can be the MAIN COURSE. There are TONS of ways to have sex without penetration. I have just given you a few ideas to get you started. The key is to be creative. And, not only will sexless sex allow you to have amazing orgasms, it’s a great way to be closer to your lover. It facilitates intimacy and conversation, two of the keys to a fulfilling sex life. Want to give it a try? Declare a week of lovemaking that’s entirely dedicated to sexless sex! You won’t be disappointed.


How to get your girl to swallow!

It’s the age-old question – do you spit or swallow? It’s on every guy’s mind. It’s the one thing they need to know before considering having sex with you. The answer could easily sway their opinion of you. Swallow? You could be his dream girl. Spit? He’s on the fence for sure!

I swallow. I know… it’s a radical idea. A girl that swallows?! Say what?! Well apparently, less than 30% of women swallow. I had no idea I was so special. I’ve been single a while and the question comes up from time to time in conversation. When I tell a guy that I swallow, this little light bulb goes off above their head. Or, they get a wicked gleam in their eyes. I can see the hamster wheel spinning… I can hear their internal voice whisper, “this girl is a keeper!”

Well, fellas… Have you ever thought about WHY I might be so rare? Why is it that so few women want to swallow your junk? A lot of it has to do with how you treat her and how you taste. It’s really as simple as that. So, stay tuned, and read away… If you follow these simple steps, your girl might be more likely to swallow!

1. RECIPROCATE – That’s right… reciprocate. If you are not willing to go down on your girl, then why should she be willing to take a load of your cum? So, if you want your girl to be more receptive to oral, give her more oral. She’ll be more likely to please you, if she is being pleased.

2. CLEAN YOURSELF – Make sure your parts are fresh and clean. A pair of sweaty balls is not the most appetizing thing in the world. Shower or freshen up before foreplay. Even a quick wipe down with a warm washcloth can go a long way. All sweaty and gross? Skip foreplay altogether!

3. EAT RIGHT – Eating kiwi, plums, blueberries, cranberries, watermelon, pineapple, and celery will lighten the taste of your cum. Beer and coffee will make your cum taste bitter. Dairy products can produce putrid tastes. So, watch what you eat! Sweeter cum is easier to swallow. Just sayin’!

4. SWEETEN THE DEAL – Cum can be hard to swallow. It’s thick and pasty. It doesn’t exactly taste great. So, sweeten the experience for her. Incorporate sweet foods like chocolate covered strawberries or champagne. After she swallows, feed her a bite of the berry and a sip of the bubbly! It’ll wash away the taste, and it’ll be romantic!

At the end of the night, whether she swallows is not a measure of how much she enjoys being with you, or her worth as a partner. If your girl simply can not swallow, don’t pressure her. And don’t be offended! Find other ways to enjoy the blowjob. You could always, pull out and cum on her chest. That’s got to be just as hot, right?! Give my advice a shot. But, if you’re load is still too much to swallow, don’t worry! You’re still getting a blowjob. Beggars can’t be choosers!

The Secrets to a Great Sex Life…

Things just haven’t worked out for me the way I imagined they would in the romance department. So, I am single and spend a fair amount of time thinking about what I do and don’t want out of a partner. Sex is a very important part of who I am. So that means I want and need a partner that I am extremely attracted to, passionate about, and sexually compatible with in. And so for me, a huge part of a successful relationship would include a great sex life.

So, what are the things that make up a great sex life? I’ve given this a lot of thought and here’s my list:

1. COMMUNICATION –  If you can’t talk about sex, I don’t think you can have a decent sex life! You should be able to tell your partner what you like and don’t like. If you need something more, you should be able to share your needs with your partner. If you want to explore something new, you should be able to share your desires. All of these things won’t happen if the communication is bad in your relationship. So, you need to feel comfortable being able to talk openly and honestly about your sex life! But beyond that, you need to be able to speak the language of sex. If you are afraid to say penis, vagina, clitoris, foreplay, etc., how are you going to ever explain what feels good to you?

2. FOREPLAY – Working each other up into a frenzy can go a long way in creating a great sex life. For starters, it gets the blood flowing in your erogenous zones. This will increase stimulation during actual intercourse. Also, for women, prolonged foreplay is often the only way they achieve orgasm, either through oral sex or manual stimulation. And a happy woman is more likely to make sure her partner is happy. But, when I talk about foreplay, I am not just talking about kissing, fondling, and oral sex. I am also talking about sending each other sexy text messages, taking hot showers together, giving each other massages, holding hands in public, whispering in each others ears, and so much more. Foreplay is anything that keeps you connected and makes you WANT sex.

3. VARIETY – Variety is supposedly the “spice of life”. But, it also the biggest ingredient to an awesome sex life! If you vow to mix things up from time to time, to try new things and keep things fresh, you’ll never get bored with each other. Experiment with new positions, buy new lingerie, have sex in a different room of the house, role play, try new toys or lubes… just do anything you can to make things interesting, as often as you can! Even small changes can increase the passion in your sex life!

So speak up, spend time on each other, and mix things up! Even spending a little extra time doing these three things could add up to more fulfilling, engaging, and passionate sex.