The Art of Sensual Massage

Want to bring a new level of romance and intimacy to your love life? Give a sensual massage to your partner!

Sensual massages are sexier and more intimate than a typical massage. They can really set the scene for an erotic, special, relaxing and intimate evening. Setting the mood, learning some basic massage techniques, and having a willingness to experiment can all go a long way in creating intimacy and sensuality when giving your partner a massage.

So, take the time to enhance your love-life with these tips for turning a regular rub-down into a sensual massage.

1. Drape the bed – Massage oil stains. So, I suggest investing in a Liberator Fascinator Throe. These supremely plush, washable throws are specially designed to slurp up love juices, lubes, lotions, and any other leftovers of sexual play. Don’t want to go this route? Buy an expensive, long, yet plush beach towel to drape across the bed. BUT, make sure it’s a solid color and super soft!

2. Pick out a quality massage oil – We carry a large selection of massage oils – organic, scented, warming, flavored/edible, and lubricating. Decide what would work best for your intimate ideas and your partner’s skin. Make sure you buy more than you may actually need; the more you have, the more sensual the massage experience! For our selection of massage oils online, click here.

3. Create ambience – It’s hard to feel romantic when there’s laundry on the floor. Take the time to clean up the bedroom and make the bed. I also suggest dimming the lights or lighting some candles. If you’re feeling really romantic, sprinkle rose petals across the bed. Finally, set the mood with a mellow, yet sexy playlist for your iPod.

4. Follow basic massage techniques – You can read up on different types of massage and strokes. But, learning the basics can go a long way. Here are a few basic tips to follow:

• Warm the oil in your hands by pouring a small amount in your palms and lightly rubbing them together.
• Then, spread the oil over the skin using smooth strokes to prepare the skin for the massage.
• Use long languid strokes to work knots and to help relax the muscles.
• Decide where you will begin. A traditional approach is to begin with the back, buttocks and back of the legs, then work on the feet, front of the legs and progress up the body. Finish with the face and head.
• Always completely finish one area of the body before moving on to the next.
• Try not to talk. Keeping it quiet is part of the relaxing, sensuous atmosphere you’re aiming to create.

5. Communicate your desires – Before starting the massage, talk about what you both want out of it. If this is for intimacy, keep the massage about touching and creating closeness. Leave the erotic touches for later. You can take turns giving each other massages, then shower up together afterwards. I promise you’ll feel amazingly connected. If you’re in this for eroticism, touch all the erogenous zones as part of your massage… but do so slowly and with intent! Don’t rush things. Delight in the sensation of touch. Make each stroke slow and purposeful – lingering, grazing, lightly pinching, etc. The slow build of passion makes a sensual massage all that much better!

Body Worship 101

About a month ago, I met someone who confided in me that they LOVE to have their balls worshipped. I asked him what he meant, what exactly he expected someone to do in order to worship his balls. He basically said he likes to have his balls stroked, licked, kissed, and squeezed as much as possible. You may be thinking, “that’s not all that unusual.” But, it’s not so much the acts, as it is the frequency and intensity by which he desired it. To him, the ball worship alone could satisfy his desires. He didn’t just want in the context of foreplay and sex. He wanted it as a stand alone act, something sustained and intense. He wanted his balls to be someone else’s complete focus. As someone who tends to lean towards the submissive side, this really got my wheels turning…

Without knowing it, I had just had my first experience with body worship…

So, what is “body worship”? According to Wikipedia, body worship is “any practice of physically reverencing a part of another person’s body, and is usually done as a submissive act in the context of BDSM.” Typical kinds of body worship include worship of the testicles, muscles, penis, vagina, or bottom. But body worship could be the complete reverence and care of any body part that you find particularly beautiful or arousing on your partner. Or, maybe it’s an extremely sensitive part of your partner’s body, such as the neck, feet, and palms of the hands.

For those in the BDSM community, you may already be familiar with the concept and practice of body worship. But, for the average Dick or Jane, you may be asking: “How can I do this in my own relationship?” As always, what works for some may not work for others. But, here are some things to get you started in body worship…

Talk to your partner… Ask your partner what areas of their body they LOVE for you to touch. This could be an erogenous zone, or simply a part of their body they enjoy having touched. For example, I do love having my clit or nipples stroked. But, my neck and the small of my back also happy to places that bring me lots of joy.

Spend some time on that spot… Once you find out where your partner would like to be worshipped, spend some time caring for that spot. Have your partner stand or lay down in front of you. Take your time admiring its beauty. Compliment your partner. Softly touch, kiss, and lick the area. Clean, massage, or moisturize that spot. Make it your complete focus for as long as your partner would like.

Need ides? Here are some spots to get you started and ideas for worshipping them…

The Back – Wash your partner’s back in the shower. Then, help them dry off. Once they are lounging on the bed, run your fingers gently up and down your partner’s back. Kiss them from the tips of the spine to the base of the neck. Grab an edible massage cream and give them a light massage. Then, lick and kiss off the cream.

The Feet – Wash your partner’s feet in a warm bath. Scrub them with an exfoliating wash, really massaging them as you go along. Then, dry them off. Have your partner sit in a chair with you at their feet. Kiss the tops and soles of their feet. Then, kiss the pads of each toe. Grab an edible massage cream and give them a light massage. Then, lick and kiss off the oil. If your partner likes it, suck the cream off their toes!

The Neck, Arms, Legs – Steal ideas from the back and feet!!

The Penis – Begin by admiring your partner’s penis. Tell him how much you love having it inside you. Describe how it feels to you when he’s thrusting away. As you talk, gently take his penis in your hands and lightly stroke it. Use a lubricant to give him a slow, meaningful hand-job. Take your time and don’t rush it. As you stroke, stop to kiss, lick, and gently suck his penis. Tell him how powerful and big he feels in your hands. Make it all about how wonderful his penis is, and about his ultimate pleasure.

The Clitoris/Labia – Begin by admiring your partner’s pussy. Tell her how beautiful it is. Describe how it feels inside, how it tastes. As you talk, gently open her lips and lightly stroke her. Use a lubricant for extra sensation. Take your time and don’t rush it. As you stroke, stop to kiss, lick, and gently suck on her lips and clit. Tell her how soft and silky she feels in your hands, how sweet she smells. If stroking is not enough, lap your tongue softly and slowly against her. The key is to go slow and to focus on the whole area, kissing and nibbling her clit and the surrounding areas. Make it all about how wonderful her pussy is, and about her ultimate pleasure.

The Bottom – Take cues from all of the areas above. And, ask your partner what their limits are! Some men and women may only like external worship such as massaging and stroking. Some men and women may be more adventurous, enjoying penetration with fingers and tongues, or licking and kissing around the anus.

In the end, this is about serving your partner and making them your entire focus. It does not need to be an act of foreplay that leads to sex. It can purely be an act of intimacy, a way to connect with each other on a deeper level. The best body worship leaves your partner feeling amazing and extraordinarily loved and special!