Are you a woman who has a man that’s interested in anal stimulation? Or, are you a man who would like to be penetrated?
Believe it or not, many straight men like anal penetration – with toys, fingers, tongues, and more. Yes, it’s true! I have been with men who’ve enjoyed it and would have never dreamed of having sex with a man. Why do straight men enjoy penetration? It’s because the prostate is located inside the anal canal. The prostate is a hot-bed of erogenous sensation. At minimum, prostate stimulation feels good and can intensify orgasms. However, some men can achieve orgasm by stimulation the prostate alone.
One of the ways to stimulate the prostate is with “pegging”. Pegging is defined as “a woman using a strap-on on her male partner for anal penetration.” Essentially, you are reversing roles. In pegging, the woman takes on the role of the man, penetrating her partner from behind.
I’ve already explained how this can be pleasurable for men on a physical level. But let me add that it can be mentally stimulating, as well. Many men enjoy the act of surrender or loss of control. They are used to being the penetrator, the one who controls the depth and speed. But, allowing themselves to be pegged creates an erotic feeling derived from surrender and/or assuming the role of the female.
You may also be asking yourself, “how is this pleasurable for a woman?” Well, from my experience, there is a tremendous amount of eroticism in being the one in charge. Dominating a partner, being the penetrator… both of these things provide a sense of power. And as we all know, power can be intoxicating. Furthermore, if you use a vibrator or bullet in combination with a harness, a woman can achieve a high level of stimulation during the repeated thrusting required in pegging!
If you’re interested in trying pegging, here are some things you want to keep in mind:
Communicating – Communication is key before and during pegging. Both of you should talk about what you’d like to try, or what your fears may be. This is new territory for you both! She’s never been in the role of penetrator and may need time getting used to the motion and rigor it takes to continuously thrust. He may not be used to the size of the toy, or the thrusting motion of being pegged. During your experimentation, make sure you both communicate about what he’d like more or less of, and if anything hurts. It’s ok to talk about it until you both feel comfortable!
Planning – Set aside some quality time to shop for a good harness, attachments, and lubrication. Then, make sure you have plenty of time to experiment. Being relaxed is key!! During your experimentation, GO SLOW. Rushing this is not going to work. Remember, this type of penetration requires more trust than traditional sex does. Plowing along full speed ahead can ruin the whole experience and cause your partner pain.
Preparing – Get to know your body and when you’re most “empty”. That can go a long way in keeping things clean. Your rectum is usually empty unless you really need to go. However, if you’d both feel more comfortable, cleaning the anal canal can ensure a mess-free experience. You can do this with a mild enema. Or, check out these helpful hygiene items from our online store.
Lubricating – The anus does not produce any natural lubrication. So, using a water-based, high quality lube will make things a lot easier. It will reduce friction and make any kind of anal penetration more comfortable. I suggest using System Jo’s H20 anal formula. If he’s really nervous about the pain, try using a desensitizing lubricant such as Liquid Sex’s anal formula. The numbing agent will take the edge off. But, it’s especially important to go slow and gentle with a numbing lube, as he won’t be able to feel if something is not working right.
Finding a good harness – There are many styles. But, the key is to find something that is comfortable for YOU to wear. I suggest trying on a harness, if possible. Most stores will allow you to slip one on over your panties. This ensures you have the best idea of how the harness will fit. In my experience, you want a harness that will fit very snuggly, and as flat against your pubic area as possible. This allows for maximum control as you thrust. An ill-fitting or loose harness will make it very hard for you to thrust and control the dong. Also, you want something that will not rub against your skin. Look for a harness that is made of soft, sturdy materials that is lined or padded for your pubic area. You also want something that has belt-like buckles to secure the harness. I find that Velcro is uncomfortable and not always secure. The same goes for loop buckles, which tend to slip and loosen during the action. The last thing you want is for you harness to fall off during pegging! Check out our online selection of harnesses here.
Selecting the attachment – Start with a small attachment, and then work up to something bigger. Even a small toy can make a big impact in heightening his climax. It allows him to get used to the sensation without any pain. Also, small toys tend to be easier to control and less cumbersome for her. I also suggest using rigid toys in the beginning. They also tend to be much easier to control, which will help her until she gets used to handling the dong, the thrusting motion, and maintain the dominant position. Need ideas? Check out our anal toys online or visit us in-store for more selection!