Deep throat confessional…

I am a pro at sucking dick. Yes, I admit it… I give stellar blowjobs. Past partners have gone nuts over my oral skills (pun intended). I get into it. I consider giving blowjobs an art, and strive to make it the best experience possible for my partner. I use my hands and tongue. I take it as deep as I can, and even like to gag a little. I make sure the balls are loved and will throw in anal teasing, if those things please my partner! It’s one of my favorite things to do. In fact, I sometimes prefer a partner to cum down my throat after we’ve fucked a while. I just think it’s hot to taste myself on their cock.

So how do you give a good blowjob? Each man will have a different take on what is good, what they like. But, most men will say that taking their cock deep into your throat is a must. I think part of this is because it provides the head of the penis the most sensation. The back of the throat is a tight spot and probably feel a lot like a vagina. Also, the deeper you can take their cock into your mouth, the more attention the shaft gets. And, well, it’s probably also a power trip. Thrusting your cock as far as you can into someone’s mouth has to feel amazingly powerful.

Our customers like to please their partners. So I get a lot of questions about helping women orgasm, etc. And many customers have asked me, “How do you learn to take it deep?” So, I thought I would drop some wisdom on the best way to deep throat a cock…

1. Relax! The gag reflex is triggered by a combination of psychology and physiology. So, if you are nervous, tense, or uptight about deep throating, it’s not going to work. Relaxing your body allows the muscles in your mouth and neck to loosen up, and therefore be ready to take it deep.

2. Figure out where your gag reflex is… and then work to desensitize it. You can do this using your toothbrush. Simply find your gag spot and brush it for 10 seconds a night. Once you’ve stopped gagging at that point, move your toothbrush further back.

3. Breathe through your nose. Practice this by holding a banana or cucumber in your mouth, breathing through your nose for as long as possible without wanting to gasp. Again, it helps if you are relaxed!

4. Get it the right position! You want to be in a position where you can slightly tilt your head back, which helps straighten out your neck. This creates a straight line from your mouth to the back of your throat, allowing the penis to slide in deep. Two of the best positions to be in are: 1) both of you lying on your sides, or 2) with your head leaning over the edge of the bed. Play around with these to find which is most comfortable for you!

5. Use a flavored lube! I know that saliva provides natural lubrication. But that’s not quite enough for deep throating a cock. An rock-hard, erect penis will glide much easier into the throat, if it is well lubricated. Try one of our flavors from Sex Tarts. The tart lube not only provides a slick flavor, but the tartness increase your saliva production.

6. Practice and go slow at first! If you take it deep and want to gag, stop and leave his cock there for as long as you can before having him pull back. Do this process as many times as you can handle. Eventually, you’ll work your away to taking him deeper and deeper into the back of your throat. Remember to be patient with yourself and your lover. You’re trying to overcome a natural instinct to gag, which is much like trying to overcome the urge to blink!

7. If all else fails… use a numbing spray to desensitize the back of your throat. I suggest Comfortably Numb. This spray comes with E-Z spray nozzle that produces an ultra fine mist to coat and numb the throat. It’s flavored and specially formulated to reduce the gag reflex and prevent discomfort during deep throating.

Need more tips? Check out our selection of books on blowjobs and oral sex!

 

 

How to get your girl to swallow!

It’s the age-old question – do you spit or swallow? It’s on every guy’s mind. It’s the one thing they need to know before considering having sex with you. The answer could easily sway their opinion of you. Swallow? You could be his dream girl. Spit? He’s on the fence for sure!

I swallow. I know… it’s a radical idea. A girl that swallows?! Say what?! Well apparently, less than 30% of women swallow. I had no idea I was so special. I’ve been single a while and the question comes up from time to time in conversation. When I tell a guy that I swallow, this little light bulb goes off above their head. Or, they get a wicked gleam in their eyes. I can see the hamster wheel spinning… I can hear their internal voice whisper, “this girl is a keeper!”

Well, fellas… Have you ever thought about WHY I might be so rare? Why is it that so few women want to swallow your junk? A lot of it has to do with how you treat her and how you taste. It’s really as simple as that. So, stay tuned, and read away… If you follow these simple steps, your girl might be more likely to swallow!

1. RECIPROCATE – That’s right… reciprocate. If you are not willing to go down on your girl, then why should she be willing to take a load of your cum? So, if you want your girl to be more receptive to oral, give her more oral. She’ll be more likely to please you, if she is being pleased.

2. CLEAN YOURSELF – Make sure your parts are fresh and clean. A pair of sweaty balls is not the most appetizing thing in the world. Shower or freshen up before foreplay. Even a quick wipe down with a warm washcloth can go a long way. All sweaty and gross? Skip foreplay altogether!

3. EAT RIGHT – Eating kiwi, plums, blueberries, cranberries, watermelon, pineapple, and celery will lighten the taste of your cum. Beer and coffee will make your cum taste bitter. Dairy products can produce putrid tastes. So, watch what you eat! Sweeter cum is easier to swallow. Just sayin’!

4. SWEETEN THE DEAL – Cum can be hard to swallow. It’s thick and pasty. It doesn’t exactly taste great. So, sweeten the experience for her. Incorporate sweet foods like chocolate covered strawberries or champagne. After she swallows, feed her a bite of the berry and a sip of the bubbly! It’ll wash away the taste, and it’ll be romantic!

At the end of the night, whether she swallows is not a measure of how much she enjoys being with you, or her worth as a partner. If your girl simply can not swallow, don’t pressure her. And don’t be offended! Find other ways to enjoy the blowjob. You could always, pull out and cum on her chest. That’s got to be just as hot, right?! Give my advice a shot. But, if you’re load is still too much to swallow, don’t worry! You’re still getting a blowjob. Beggars can’t be choosers!

The Case for Setting the Mood

I don’t know about you, but I have a VERY busy schedule. I work a full-time, Monday through Friday job. I am raising a child. I have friends and social obligations. And there’s housework and errands… and granted, I am single right now. But, if I had a partner, there would be even more on my plate. So, at the end of the day, if there is time for sex, it would most likely be of the quickie variety.

Now don’t get me wrong – quickies are fun, too. I mean, sex is sex. Right? And even when it’s bad, it’s good. It’s like a scoop of ice cream – always a tasty treat. But, don’t you sometimes want hot fudge on your ice cream? Maybe even whipped cream and a cherry?

Well, you should think of sex the same way, too – sometimes it’s nice to dress it up with some extra flavors! Sometimes, you should take the time to set the mood. Sometimes, you should go the extra mile to make sex and experience. Why? Let me tell you…

• It breaks up the monotony. Simply taking a hot bubble bath together or lighting a few candles will mix things up.
• It inspires you… and your partner. Maybe your partner wasn’t in the mood. But, when they see that you took the time to sprinkle rose petals on the bed, they’ll relax and find a way to say “thank you”.
• It can bring out the passion you’ve been too busy to harness.
• But most of all, it makes your partner feel special, which in turn will make the sex more romantic and intimate.

So how can you set the mood? Here are a few tips:

• Invite your partner into the bedroom for an intimate massage. The thrill of touch will relax your partner, and bring you closer together. For this, try System Jo’s Lavender Massage Glide. Lavender has a calming effect and smells wonderful. Plus, the massage glide is silicone based and never leaves your skin feeling greasy, oily or tacky. What’s even better? This massage glide doubles as a lubricant!
• Run the hot water and treat your partner to a relaxing bubble bath. I suggest using Dona Cleanse bath foam. This is no ordinary bubble bath foam. It’s actually infused with aphrodisiacs to help you relax and increase sensuality!
• Buy your partner something sexy and set it out on the bed for them to try on. Help them undress slowly. Then, help them slip into the something special you’ve picked out. Once they’re ready, ask them to slowly undress you! Dressing and undressing each other can be very intimate and erotic. And check out our large selection of lingerie for inspiration on what you’d like them to wear!
• Make a unique love-making mix for your iPod. Dim the lights in the room and hit play! Then, ask your partner to join you in a slow dance. Want to make things even more sensual? Try a Club Vibe 2.OH. Club Vibe 2.OH is a revolutionary wireless remote control vibrator that beats to the rhythm of your music.
• Dim the lights and use scented candles to create an air of romance. And for this, I suggest any of our scented massage candles. These candles will fill your room with an alluring scent, And, they melt down into a sensual, warm, and edible  massaging oil!

So make some time to take your love-making from vanilla to hot fudge sundae! You won’t regret the effort!

Get Wet: Sex in the Shower

If you’re anything like me, you’ve had sex in just about every room in your house – the kitchen, the living room, the basement den, the back deck (not a room, I know. But, hey…). And one of the easiest places to get it on is the one room where you spend the most time naked – the bathroom!! There’s nothing steamier than having sex in the shower.

Let me tell you why you should have sex in the shower (as if you needed convincing):

1. You’ll save time by lathering up and getting it on.
2. It’s instant clean-up and mess free!
3. You’ll be saving water, which helps the environment.
4. Slippery bodies glide against each other more easily.
5. A partner can reach those hard to get places.
6. You can adjust the water temp to fit your mood.
7. Adjustable shower heads make for great stimulation.
8. The water rushing down your skin adds another level of sensation.
9. Warm water actually makes arousal more likely.
10. It provides privacy when there may not be any.

But, before you go running to the bathroom to start the taps to flowing, check out these tips:

• Water-based lubricants will not last as long in the shower. So, use a good, silicone-based lube like System Jo’s Premium lubricant. By using the right lube, you can have long-lasting shower fun!
• Make sure your toys are submersible and appropriate for the shower! Not any toy can get that wet. So, I suggest Sex in the Shower’s vibrating sponge or the WeVibe Tango. Both are safe for use in the shower and will provided loads of watery fun.
• Play it safe. Grab some handles or foot rests from Sex in the Shower. These sturdy, suction cup accessories make positioning easier and safer!
• Read up on the best positions for steamy sex in the water. Check out Cosmo’s Aqua Kama Sutra! This completely water-proof  book will make every water adventure a success. Packed with colorful illustrations, detailed instructions, and aqua sex tips, it’s so hot you’ll NEED to be in water to cool down.

So start lathering each other up into a frenzy! It’s never been more fun to get dirty while getting clean!

The Secrets to a Great Sex Life…

Things just haven’t worked out for me the way I imagined they would in the romance department. So, I am single and spend a fair amount of time thinking about what I do and don’t want out of a partner. Sex is a very important part of who I am. So that means I want and need a partner that I am extremely attracted to, passionate about, and sexually compatible with in. And so for me, a huge part of a successful relationship would include a great sex life.

So, what are the things that make up a great sex life? I’ve given this a lot of thought and here’s my list:

1. COMMUNICATION –  If you can’t talk about sex, I don’t think you can have a decent sex life! You should be able to tell your partner what you like and don’t like. If you need something more, you should be able to share your needs with your partner. If you want to explore something new, you should be able to share your desires. All of these things won’t happen if the communication is bad in your relationship. So, you need to feel comfortable being able to talk openly and honestly about your sex life! But beyond that, you need to be able to speak the language of sex. If you are afraid to say penis, vagina, clitoris, foreplay, etc., how are you going to ever explain what feels good to you?

2. FOREPLAY – Working each other up into a frenzy can go a long way in creating a great sex life. For starters, it gets the blood flowing in your erogenous zones. This will increase stimulation during actual intercourse. Also, for women, prolonged foreplay is often the only way they achieve orgasm, either through oral sex or manual stimulation. And a happy woman is more likely to make sure her partner is happy. But, when I talk about foreplay, I am not just talking about kissing, fondling, and oral sex. I am also talking about sending each other sexy text messages, taking hot showers together, giving each other massages, holding hands in public, whispering in each others ears, and so much more. Foreplay is anything that keeps you connected and makes you WANT sex.

3. VARIETY – Variety is supposedly the “spice of life”. But, it also the biggest ingredient to an awesome sex life! If you vow to mix things up from time to time, to try new things and keep things fresh, you’ll never get bored with each other. Experiment with new positions, buy new lingerie, have sex in a different room of the house, role play, try new toys or lubes… just do anything you can to make things interesting, as often as you can! Even small changes can increase the passion in your sex life!

So speak up, spend time on each other, and mix things up! Even spending a little extra time doing these three things could add up to more fulfilling, engaging, and passionate sex.

Be Smooth, Play HARD: Glass, Ceramic, and Metal Sex Toys

When you think of sex toys, you probably envision the traditional dildo or dong… a brightly colored, rubbery toy that’s easy to fling around and use as a weapon (if you’re feeling silly). And truth be told, despite the often humorous appearance of these toys, they can feel really amazing when used for pleasure. Many of them even have life-like appearances and feels. Good ones can come pretty close to mimicking the real deal. And if you add in vibrations, rotating beads, and rabbit-heads? Well, watch the fuck out! You’re definitely going to have a good time or two… or four…

But have you ever craved something different? Have you wanted to try something a little edgier? Or, maybe your body doesn’t like the traditional toys. You get yeast infections, or are allergic to the materials…

Well, I have a sexy solution for both of those problems – glass, ceramic, and metal sex toys!

Let me tell you about the more erotic benefits first:

• To begin with, glass, ceramic, and metal toys are extremely hard, unbreakable in fact. And they tend to be heavy. The hard and heavy nature of these toys creates an entirely different sensation, compared to traditional toys, when used vaginally or anally. And they tend to have more heft, and therefore pressure, in the orifice of choice!
• Traditional toys have much more friction due to their rubbery surface. Glass, ceramic, and metal toys are completely smooth. Their smooth surface has almost zero friction. The in-and-out sensation is more like a glide. This makes them perfect to use as anal toys because the reduced friction makes for easier penetration.
• Unlike traditional toys, glass, ceramic, and metal toys can hold heat and cold. Pop them in ice water or warm water, and you’ll have an instantly different feeling!

And what about the health benefits?

• Unlike traditional toys, glass, ceramic, and metal toys are non-porous. This means they will not hold onto bacteria like traditional toys. So, if you are prone to yeast or bacterial infections, these are the perfect toys for you!
• Many people are allergic to the materials of traditional toys. Glass, ceramic, and metal toys are free from silicone, rubber, latex, and phthalates!

And then there are the practical benefits:

• You can use any type of lube with these types of toys. Plus, their smooth surface means you can use less lube, AND the lube will last even longer than on traditional toys.
• They are extremely durable and will last forever. The materials won’t degrade and there are no parts to break!
• Also, glass, ceramic, and metal toys are extremely easy to clean. You can just pop them in the dishwasher!

Curious and want to try out a glass, ceramic, or metal toy? Let me suggest a few of my favorites…

Metal Worx Slim Fave – This is a luxurious, metal, dual-ended pleasure probe. Cast in high quality steel and hand-polished to perfection, this all-in-one exciter is perfect for vaginal or anal play and equal parts art and pleasure. The hygienic metal finish is sleek, non-porous, and easy to clean, while the design is body-inspired and made to excite.

Icicles #7 – Hand-crafted with amazing attention to detail, this luxurious glass massager will leave you breathless. This glass wand is sleek, unique, and made to play hard. And, the pleasure bubbles will glide effortlessly against all the right places!

Don Wands Real Tip Rocket Blue – Beautiful to look at, fun to play with! This realistically shaped glass toy will never lose it’s erection!

Overall, glass, ceramic and metal toys are a highly erotic, body-safe, AND an exciting way to add something new to your sex life! So, don’t be shy… Give one of these toys a try! I promise you won’t be disappointed!

Sexy New Year’s Resolutions for 2014

It’s that time of year again… The Holidays are drawing to a close. The year is almost over. And, we are all gearing up for New Year’s Eve celebrations.

If you are like most people, you’re thinking of resolutions for the new year. Even if you don’t call them resolutions, we all promise ourselves that we’ll do something differently in the coming year. This year, skip the promises to eat right, exercise more, drink less… Make resolutions you’ll actually keep! Research has shown that the more you want it, the more likely you are to keep a resolution. And what do we all want more than anything? HOT SEX!!

So, here are my sexy New Year’s resolutions for 2014:

1. Be more spontaneous – Don’t forget the old adage: where there is a will, there is a way! When the mood strikes you, make it happen. But don’t just make this about spontaneous sex… include random kisses, hugs, groping, and compliments. All of these things will make your sex life sexier!

2. Try new things – As much as possible, experiment with new positions in the bedroom. Or, try new toys or play accessories. Hell, thinking of new places to have sex can spice things up. And here’s a way to help you keep things new and exciting: write all the new things you want to try on little slips of paper, then throw them in the jar. As often as possible, draw one from the jar and make it happen!

3. Communicate – Seems simple, right? Well, most people do not talk to their partners about what they want and need. Make this your year to open up about sex and tell them what you like, how often you want it, and why you like it!

4. Get kinky – Being kinky doesn’t mean you have to delve into the BDSM lifestyle. But, adding a little bit of kink can go a long way to having sexier sex in the new year. Haven’t watched porn together? Do it. Want to try some bondage? Buy some silk rope. Never role-played? Buy the school girl outfit.

5. Stop making excuses – Headaches, lack of time, lack of desire… we all have excuses for why we don’t have sex. But, even a little foreplay can go a long way in making you happier and your relationship stronger. So, find the time to please and be pleased.

6. Be intimate – Sex does not equal intimacy. But, the more intimate you are with each other, the more you’ll want sex, and the more fulfilling it will be. So, take warm showers with each other, snuggle, hold hands, massage each other, hug… Anything that brings you closer together is well worth the effort and will make for a better 2014!

Need more reasons to have more sex in 2014? Check out this related article from CNN, about the benefits of having sex: New Year’s resolution: Have more sex. Turns out that sex is good for you! So, if you wanted to be healthier in the new year, have more sex!!

Here’s to a happy, healthy, prosperous, and sexy 2014!!

Sex and the Holidays: a How-To Guide

The Holiday season is a wonderful time of year. It’s about family and friends, joy and love, giving and receiving. You’re attending parties and connecting with your loved ones. You’re spending time at home with your family, or they’re excitedly traveling to see you. Overall, most of us are happily spreading the cheerful spirit of the season as we go about our days. It’s just an all-around, feel-good time of year.

But, let’s face it… running around town for gifts, spending money, having a full social calendar, and spending time with your family can all be stressful, even if it’s a joyful kind of stress! And so we may neglect our sex lives due to stress or lack of time. But, this is exactly why you should make a point of sneaking in sex as much as possible during the Holidays! Sex is a natural way to bring you closer to someone you love AND relieves stress. It’s a 2-for-1 gift for the Holidays!

So, how do you make time for sex during the Holidays? Well, whether you’re busy or visiting family, there is a way! Here’s our how-to guide for sex and the Holidays:

1. Make use of the shower – Lock the door, jump in together, lather each other up, and sneak in a wet quickie!

2. Fake a nap – Pretend you both need a nap after all the fun, and run off to the bedroom for a hushed romp. Muffling the noise will only make things hotter! I promise!

3. Run “errands” – Pop out to pick up some last-minute items from the store and find a secluded parking lot. Jump in the back seat and make like teenagers!

4. Afternoon delight – Busy in the evenings? Make a lunch date with your lover and rush home for a quickie. With the edge off, the office party that evening won’t seem so lame.

5. Speaking of parties… At the office? Sneak off to the nearest single-user bathroom. At a friend’s or family member’s house? Find a secluded closet or make your way to the basement bathroom!

6. Pull a Santa Claus – Wait until everyone is nestled in bed with vision of sugar plums dancing in their heads, then have a late, late night romp.

7. Skip the main course – If time is really tight, skip sex and just stick with foreplay. Hand-jobs and finger-fucks can get the job done much more quickly!

8. Make a naughty list – Each of you write down 12 naughty things you’d like to do over the Holidays. Then, make it a challenge to see how many items you can check off your naughty list!

9. Give the gift of oral – Give him a blow-job, or go down on her… without expecting anything in return but some moans and a sexy “thank you”!

10. Use toys – Toys don’t require full nudity, or even much discretion. Grab a masturbator for him, and help him get off while you’re on that long drive home to visit family. Grab a remote-controlled bullet for her, and return the favor.

However you decide to please each other over the Holidays, make time for sex! I promise you’ll feel even jollier!! And with that, we wish you a Merry Christmas, Happy Kwanzaa, Joyful Winter Solstice, Happy New Year, and more to all of our friends and fans!!

 

Why you should give the gift of sex…

It’s the Holiday season. You have a long list of things to do, gifts to get, and people to see. You may think you don’t have time for sex. Maybe you’re too stressed out to fool around. Perhaps the family is around, and you don’t want them all up in your business. But, you should make time for sex, whenever and wherever possible during the Holidays. Think about it… sex is about giving and receiving pleasure. So naturally, that makes sex the perfect gift – for yourself and your partner! Here’s why:

1. It’s free! That’s right… it doesn’t cost one red cent!
2. It’s a gift you can both enjoy, any time, all year-round.
3. It burns calories. And with all those Holiday meals, we all need to burn a few calories!
4. It doesn’t require a trip to the mall. No parking needed. No creepy Santas.
5. It spreads Holiday cheer and joy. Who isn’t happy after fucking?!
6. It’s more desirable than socks, fruit cakes, or gawdy sweaters. No one wants that shit!
7. It’s relaxing. All that Holiday stress will just melt away.
8. It’s many gifts in one – oral, vaginal, anal, hand-jobs, and more!
9. It’ll bring you closer together… more so than the double-Snuggie!
10. Orgasms. The end.

Happy Holidays from us to you! Stop by for great stocking stuffers and sexy gifts!
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The Case for Masturbation Over Casual Sex…

I don’t often post things from a serious perspective. But, I’ve got some things on my mind that I wanted to share… Just stick with me!

You may not know it from my thoughts and musings, but I am a monogamous, 30-something, single mom. I bet you never would’ve guessed that I would be posting blogs for a sex shop. But, I happen to know a LOT about sex because I’ve always had very adventurous partners. In fact, my friends always call me a “monogamous freak”. It fits. So, trust me when I post something. I know what I am talking about… usually… unless it’s like, bestiality or necrophilia or something… NOT MY THING!!!

I think I’ve made the point before that I am very selective about who I have sex with, due to being a monogamous, 30-something, single mom… (and well, there’s this post that explains some more things about me). I have to be careful – for my child’s sake. In my opinion, I have to stay healthy and whole in order to be a good parent. And therefore, I do not risk my physical or emotional well-being for sex’s sake. I’m not a prude. Don’t get me wrong – I have slipped up from time to time and  have had sex outside of a relationship. I just think it’s dangerous territory for me. So, I don’t do it. It’s never gone right. I end up disappointed because of the sex.

Why? Repeat after me… Sex is just a temporary physical act… It does not equal love. It does not make up for the things you lack in life. It only feels good while you’re doing it. And it can be downright disappointing physically and/or emotionally, if it’s not done right!

Sex feels good. Oh yes, it does! When your lover circles your pussy with his cock, then plunges in after what seems like forever, it feels like heaven on Earth. It’s like, the best thing EVER! And sex is good for you, too. It relaxes you. It has a bunch of proven health benefits, like headache and blood pressure reduction. Hell, it even burns calories!! Shit… forget your diet and have sex 4 times a day! You’ll look and feel awesome. But, I know that in order to feel good about my own sexual decisions, I have to feel good about the person I am being intimate with… When I don’t feel good about it, I always end up regretting it.

I bet you’re wondering at this point, “why is she even posting this? What a buzz kill!!” Right? I am writing this because I want you to remember you are a bar of gold. You are a valuable commodity. You’re body is your temple, and you do not want to disrespect your temple. Repeat after me… Sex is just a temporary physical act… STD’s can be forever. Dick-bag boyfriends, or crazy girlfriends, can cause permanent damage. Is that temporary feeling of ecstasy worth it? Sometimes, it might be worth it. Sometimes…

For all those other times, fuck yourself. Masturbate. Take care of your own business. Hell, I know there have been times where I WISH I had masturbated instead of hooking up, either because the sex was lame or the emotional impact was too draining. Listen to me!!! Liberate yourself by taking charge of your own sexual pleasure. Why?

• Masturbation will put your needs first
• Masturbation will never give you an STD
• Masturbation will never cheat on you
• Masturbation will always let you cum first
• Masturbation will never lie to you
• Masturbation will never hurt your feelings
• Masturbation will never waste your time
• Masturbation will never make promises it can’t keep

Need more reasons? Here’s scientific reasons to pass on the meaningless sex and stick with the self-pleasure:

• Masturbation helps you sleep
• Masturbation relieves cramps and stress
• Masturbation has been shown to prevent prostate cancer and alleviate UTI’s
• Masturbation boosts your immunity
• Masturbation has been shown to improve your mood
• Masturbation tones pelvic and anal muscles
• Masturbation lowers Risk Of Type 2 Diabetes

So, skip the dick-bags and the crazy bitches from time to time. Instead, check out our selection of solo toys and make yourself happy!

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