Penis Pumps 101… by Danny Z

These days, I find myself getting more and more questions about our penis pumps. I am not happy about the narrow-mindedness most of the questions, though. It seems that most customers believe pumps are “for people with problems”. However, that is not always the case. To me, it’s like saying people who use straws when they drink must have neck problems. Using a penis pump doesn’t mean you have a problem. Maybe you do. But maybe, you just like the fullness it brings to your erection. Or, perhaps you just like the sucking sensation.

Yes, people who have erectile dysfunction, blood pressure problems, or diabetes can use the pumps to achieve and maintain an erection. Maybe you’re saying to yourself, “I don’t have any of those issues. Why would I want to use a pump?” Well, penis pumps will actually help ANY penis reach max potential in length and thickness. Don’t get me wrong… it won’t make your penis bigger. BUT, it will make it the biggest it can be… and that is always a plus!

How can a penis pump help you reach max potential? It does so by gently sucking on the penis, therefore increasing blood flow to the penis. So basically, it enhances the natural process that causes erections in the first place. The increased blood flow is maintained with the use of a cock ring, which you slide on after you remove the pump. This restricts the blood from leaving the penis, and maintains the girth effect pumps provide. The rings are used during intercourse or masturbation, and will help you last longer and cum bigger. I don’t know about you, but I’ve never complained about an orgasm being too powerful! So, that’s a side effect of using penis pumps that I am completely ok with…

Now, let’s talk about how you actually use a penis pump. First, I suggest getting a little aroused. Then, slip the cock ring down your shaft with the help of your favorite water based lubricant. Next, place a little bit of water based lube on the rim of the penis pump. This will help ease of entry. Then, slide your penis into the shaft of the pump and make sure it fits securely. Start squeezing the pump, slowly at first until you get used to the sensation. There will be a slight feeling of restriction. But if there is any discomfort, ease off the pumping or stop completely. In other words, be cautious when pumping. Pumps restrict and contract the veins in the penis. If you get over zealous, there is a possibility of injury. Be safe and play nice. Once you have pump your penis to your desired erection, slide out gently! If you want to remove the cock ring, simply slide it off. It’s easier to get off with the aid of a little lube. Otherwise, leave it on the cock ring and have at it!

I hope you give one of our penis pumps a try. It’s not for everyone. But, it can bring another dimension to your sex life or masturbation time. So, pump it up and get it on!

Suggested Pumps:

I like anything from the Pump Worx line by Pipedream. They are reasonably priced and of good quality. They also offer a large variety of pumps that offer different sensations and functions like vibration.

I’m also a fan of the James Deen brand pump. It is also reasonably priced and of good quality. Plus, it has a gauge to help you remember your desired level of pressure.

Also, check out our pump selection online! http://thereddoorstore.com/index.php/fun-with-toys/pumps/mens-pumps

BDSM 101: Kinky Basics for Everyone

Maybe you already know what BDSM is, and going a little further intrigues you. Perhaps you’ve dabbled with spanking your partner. Or, maybe you’ve tied each other up with scarves. But now, you want to try more BDSM fun in the bedroom.

Or, maybe you’ve never heard of BDSM. Perhaps, you’re intimidated by the idea. Or, maybe you just don’t know how to get started, but would be interested in trying something like this in the bedroom.

Well, this is your primer for BDSM. I’m going to give you some basic ideas to get your kinky juices flowing!

First of all, let’s define BDSM:

B = bondage – using restraints as part of an intimate relationship

D = domination – a dominant partner controlling and/or punishing a submissive partner

S & M = sadism and masochism – giving (s) and receiving (m) pleasure from pain

Getting started… When getting started with any BDSM activity, talk to your partner FIRST! Discuss what you would like to try and come up with a game plan. It’s important to set up boundaries before you ever venture down this road. Why? It’s because many BDSM activities require a high level of trust between partners. So, talk, talk, talk about what you will and won’t do! Then, decide on a safe word, or code word, to use with your partner when you want things to stop. Remember, it’s ok to stop and regroup. You should never feel like you can’t trust your partner!

Now, let’s break everything down. I’m going to give you some basic ideas according to where they fall in the BDSM spectrum. Some of them might not be your thing, and that’s ok! The idea is to spice things up within YOUR comfort zone.

Bondage – There are so many easy ways to incorporate bondage into your sex life!

• Grab a leash and walk your partner around the bedroom
• Use furry handcuffs or silk rope to restrict your partner’s use of their hands, or to lock them to a bedpost or chair
• Try a ball gag to muffle your partner’s pleas for mercy or cries of ecstasy
• Use a spreader bar to restrict the use of your partner’s legs
• Go all the way and use hog ties or wrist and leg cuffs to completely restrict your partner’s movements

Domination – This is all about one person being in charge, with the other relinquishing control.

• Pretend your partner is your love slave and have them work to earn their freedom by doing anything you say
• Control your partner by repeatedly stimulating them, but not allowing them to have an orgasm
• Role play having one of you be the servant (think French maid, pool boy, love robot, etc.)
• Try a remote controlled panty vibe where you or your partner is in charge of the amount of stimulation received
• Use a blindfold and do not allow your partner to see what you’re about to do next

S&M – This is all about giving and/or receiving pain. But, it doesn’t mean you have to hurt each other. Start on the softer side with any of these suggestions and work your way up to more intensity!

• Try using nipple clamps for an exciting pinch
• Pick up a paddle, riding crop, or leather flogger, then lightly smack each other on sensitive areas
• Drip hot wax onto each other’s backsides
• Try an electro-stimulation kit on sensitive areas with the dial set to low
• Use your teeth to gently bite sensitive areas

Want to try some of the ideas above? Check out our BDSM selection online. You’ll find many items to help you get started.

Want to try some harder stuff? Do your research! Talk to your partner about your desires AND boundaries. And, the visit one of our 3 Charlotte are stores. We have a much larger, and kinkier, selection of BDSM items in-store.

 

Oral Sex 101: Tips for Great Oral!

Oral sex… *Sigh*

If you’re anything like me, you’ve had a man boast that he is awesome at going down. He raves about the compliments he’s received in the past. But, when he starts pleasuring you, it either feels like a beaver gnawing on your privates or like a Dyson has locked on to your clit! Or for you guys, there’s the girl who boasts of her skills in sucking dick. But when she’s down there, she barely moves her lips and throat around your shaft, and mostly uses her hands. Or, she really sucks… like s Dyson has locked on to your dick!

I know that everyone likes something different when it comes to getting off. Maybe you like the above oral sex techniques. I’m not judging… But, listen up all you Dyson-mouthed folks! When done with some skill and attention, oral sex can be a much more amazing experience than the ones I’ve had above! So, here are my tips on how to give great oral sex…

These tips are for everyone:

1. Start fresh! A shower can go a long way in making oral much more pleasant for the giver! And if you’re receiving the oral, being clean will make you more comfortable and at ease.

2. Communicate! Tell your partner up front what you like and don’t like. During the oral, give encouragement or softly spoken suggestions. Moaning and groaning works, too!

3. Reciprocate! Reciprocate! Reciprocate! If you don’t like to give, it really discourages your partner from wanting to give. So, do unto to others as you would have done to you!

 

If you’re going down on her:

1. Slow down! It’s not a race! Warp speed tongue action does nothing but frustrate the average women. And most likely, a steady build will create a much more intense orgasm for her.

2. Don’t munch the rug! Teeth are ok… but that means a little nibble here or there. Repetitive gnawing is not really a pleasurable feeling for most women.

3. Yes, sucking on my clit is a pleasurable feeling… when done lightly! Don’t go all Dyson on me!

4. Don’t like to go down because of the “taste”? Well that’s not fair. Consider using a flavored lube and get to licking! Not only will it taste good to you, it actually enhances the feeling for me.

5. Apply a little pressure. Light licks will tease me. Mixing in firmer licks will get me there.

 

If you’re going down on him:

1. Take him deeply into your mouth and stroke up and down, allowing him to feel the back of your throat. I know this seems basic. But, many of us who give blow-jobs end up focusing solely on the head of the penis. That can be too intense or frustrating for a man. Think of your mouth as a vagina. How would a man use his penis in vagina? Would he just poke the tip in repeatedly? NO! He goes all in and then almost all out. Do the same with your mouth!

2. Don’t be a Dyson. Lightly sucking, yes. Creating an oral vortex, no. Sucking dick doesn’t mean literally turning your mouth into a vacuum.

3. Try a little flavored lube. If you’re like me, sometimes your mouth gets dry. A dry mouth is no fun for anyone. Using lube will keep the moisture up and the friction down.

4. Some guys like a little teeth. Gently graze the back side of his shaft with your teeth. But, don’t go all cheese grater on him!

5. Use your tongue. Running the tongue along the back of his shaft and the head of his penis adds that extra wow factor. Also, using your tongue to gently apply pressure as you move up and down can create a tighter feel for him.

 

Read these tips! Study them! Master them! Don’t be that person who boasts of your skills, but disappoints in the bedroom. Don’t be the beaver gnawing away or the Dyson set to VORTEX. Just don’t. 🙂

 

Sexual Fantasies and XXX Daydreaming

So, I am 100% pro-fantasy. In fact, if you could read my mind, you’d see I fantasize a LOT! Sometimes, it’s like there’s a XXX movie playing in my head. I’m a creative person. Maybe that’s why I’m constantly coming up with scenarios for my sex life. It frustrates Mr. Big, my partner. I’ve heard him say on more than one occasion, “It’s like the Rolling Stones, honey… we can’t play all our greatest hits in one night!!!” Bless his heart. I think I exhaust him…

I know not all of my fantasies can or will come true. But, it never hurts to dream… right?

Like for instance, I was in training the other day and this cute, butch woman was leading the training. What did I do? I spent part of the class fantasizing about pussy grinding… PUSSY GRINDING. What did I take away from the class? That I want to pussy grind as soon as possible. I want to find a hot woman, get naked, and rub against her. Yep.

Or, the other night, Mr. Big was talking about watching the series OZ, a prison drama that HBO produced a decade ago. What did I do? I started fantasizing about some big, buff prison thug making my lover his bitch. In this fantasy, I am the prison warden, watching it all play out, waiting for my turn with the billy club…. Mr. Big was not entirely thrilled with my fantasy, but he was amused.

What’s wrong with these little mini-pornos running through my mind from time to time? Well, other than not having enough time, energy or partner, there’s nothing wrong with a little fantasizing!

Everyone has sexual fantasies, from the mundane to the down right freak-a-licious! Think about it… Most of you have had fantasies about having sex in a public place like a bathroom or the hood of a car. Lots of you have had fantasies of threesomes or watching your partner have sex with someone else. A lot of women fantasize about girl-on-girl. We’re human. We daydream. And, fantasies are healthy. They can increase your arousal during sex. Plus, fantasies allow you to do things you would not do in real life, and the outcome is always positive. It’s a win-win!

So, you don’t want to keep daydreaming like me? Then you may be asking yourself, “how do I make my fantasies come true?” I can’t tell you a step-by-step for every fantasy you may have. There’s honestly not enough blog space for just MY fantasies. And, keep in mind that I am not a licensed couple’s counselor, nor a sex therapist. But, I can help you open up the dialogue with your partner. Here’s my advice:

Test the waters – Start by showing your partner a porn with a scenario you’d like to act out. Then, ask them what they think of that scenario. Your partner should be pretty honest with you about it under those circumstances, and you’ll be able to gauge whether revealing more is a possibility. You could also present your fantasy as a wild dream you had and see how your partner reacts. Or, ask them to visit a sex shop with you and see what they gravitate towards.

Ease it into conversation SLOWLY – I think it’s best to start small. In my opinion, you should never go for a full reveal if you don’t think your partner is that adventurous. In other words, if you want to reveal your ideas, don’t do it all at once. You may intimidate, scare, or alienate your partner by rushing things. If you think your partner is open to a threesome, ask them what would turn them on about the fantasy. Getting them to open up to you will make it easier for you to discuss your ideas.

The theme here is communication! You honestly will never know unless you ask. Once you begin having these conversation with your partner, you open the door to a greater level of sexual creativity between the two of you!

Tips for creating a porn-worthy sex life!

Let’s face it… most of us don’t have porn-quality bodies or sex lives. We need to lose weight and don’t get enough sleep. We’ve got kids or family obligations to take care of. We get sick or just don’t feel our best. We’re busy people with busy lives. We don’t always have time in the day for sex, much less high quality sex. Sometimes, it’s a quickie or nothing at all! Plus, we get bored or stuck in a rut in the bedroom. And honestly, sometimes sex becomes a chore…

But, it doesn’t have to be that way! In fact, it doesn’t take much to make your sex life more exciting. A little extra effort can pay off in big ways. Want to have more porn-worthy sex? You can spice it up a little at a time with these tips:

1. Make intimacy a high priority!
Porn stars have sex at the drop of a hat. And while you might not be able to, seize any opportunity you may have. Make time for sex and don’t let it become a chore. Can’t regularly get it on for any number of reasons? Then at least schedule some intimate time with your partner during the week, even if just to cuddle and make-out. The closer you are physically, the more likely you are to be interested in sex.

2. Show enthusiasm!
Porn stars are noisy. Why? It’s a turn-on for both of you AND ego-boost for the one doing the pleasing. Plus, by letting your partner know you are pleased, you will make them want to please you even more. Moan and move! Get into it! Don’t just lay there quietly like a corpse… Let them know you are enjoying yourself!

3. Speak up!
Porn stars are bossy. Maybe you noticed that they order their lovers around. Touch me here. Do me there. Spank me. Lick me. Harder. Faster. Softer… Do the same in your own sex life! Tell your partner EXACTLY what you want, and how you want them to do it! This is especially important if you don’t like something they’re doing. If you don’t speak up, they’re going to keep making the same mistake… and that’s no fun at all!

4. Set the scene!
Porn stars don’t just have sex in the bedroom. They have sex everywhere – by the pool, in offices, during slumber parties for crying out loud! Create your own fantasy scene at home by having sex somewhere else in the house, like the kitchen or your home office. Need to keep things confined to the bedroom? Then, buy those satin sheets! Dim those lights! Light those candles! Line up those toys! Make your bedroom your fantasy love-making spot.

5. Role play!
Porn stars rarely play themselves. They’re always acting out a scenario – coed and professor, plumber and housewife, masseuse and customer. Think about it… Isn’t it always some situation where complete strangers suddenly get it on? So get into character! Pretend you are the special delivery boy or that she is the naughty nurse! Pretending to be someone else can lower your inhibitions and make sex more exciting. Plus, it’s like getting to have sex with someone new!

6. Use enhancements!
Male porn stars can go all night and repeatedly get it up. Female porn stars orgasm just after a few pokes. We, the average masses, are not like this at all! So what can you do to make things more porn-like? No need to fake it or feel like you don’t measure up… Guys, you can try enhancement supplements or creams. These enhancements can create more hardness and girth, help delay ejaculations, and can even help you get it up repeatedly! We even carry sleeves to help you with length. And, we carry plenty of toys to help fulfill her double penetration fantasies… Girls, don’t be ashamed to use a toy to help you orgasm. We also carry enhancement supplements and creams for you. They’ll help make your lady parts more sensitive to touch and stimulation, making it easier for you to orgasm.

Whether you try one or all of our suggestions, sex should be something you enjoy. Don’t see something you like in our tips above? Try one of your own ideas! Keeping your sex life fresh and exciting with your partner is the main priority. Got a suggestion for us? Send us an email and maybe we’ll feature it on our blog!

Solo Time: Tips for pleasing yourself

Whether you’re single, or just need a little alone time without your partner, masturbation is a good way to release some sexual energy. Aside from being fun, masturbation has also be proven to be good for you! And, it’s never a crime to be good to yourself… Masturbation can boost your immunity, relieve stress, help with sexual function, and may even reduce risks of cancer. So in honor of self-pleasure, here are tips to make your solo time very satisfying!

FOR HIM:

Try a masturbator… It’s not be the real thing. But, mastubators are still fun, snug, and feel great! And, you get to have faux oral, vaginal, or anal sex with any number of porn stars. We even carry fantasy styles, if you’re feeling particularly freaky!! Check out our selection here.

Use a warming lube in your hands or with a masturbator for a more lifelike, enhanced feel… The warm sensation adds to the realism and feels great on your penis. Check out our selection here.

Try watching a POV porn… Shot at a realistic angle for a fantasy feel, these pornos make you feel like you are part of the action. Pair the POV porn with a masturbator to match the action and you’re set!

Use nipple clamps… Your nipples are full of erogenous nerves. Stimulating them feels great. Plus, the extra pinch will intensify your climax! Check out our selection here.

Try an anal plug… Stimulating and applying pressure to the prostate with an anal plug can provide INTENSE orgasms for men. Check out our selection here.

Squeeze your balls… That’s right. Gently (or firmly) squeeze and tug down on your own balls right before you climax. This will also create a much more energetic and intense climax.

FOR HER:

Get to know your clitoris… 80% of women need some clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm. The best way to master the clitoral orgasm is to be hands-on! Using a good lube and your fingers, stroke your clitoris with the speed and pressure that feels right for you. Don’t want to use your hands? Try stroking a vibrating toy against your clitoris for maximum please. Check out our selection here.

Get to know your g-spot… applying pressure to the g-spot will create a much more pleasurable experience and can intensify your orgasm. Try using a vibrator that is specially designed to rub against the g-spot. Check out our selection here.

Use a quality lube… Lube on your clitoris, as well as a toy, will create a more sensual experience. Try a warming or cooling lube for even more heightened sensations. Check out our selection here.

Get in the mood… Try reading some of our erotica, or watching a little porn, to get you turned on. Either will enhance your mood and will help you to create a fantasy you can pleasure yourself to. Check out our erotica here.

Give anal a try… An anal toy or plug puts pressure on the vaginal wall and will greatly intensify your orgasm. Not to mention, the anus is packed full of erogenous nerves endings! Check out our anal toys here.

Hit the water… the warm sensation of a bath or shower goes a long way in relaxing your body. A relaxed body will make it easier to achieve orgasm and can make your climax stronger… and it also feels sensuous to have the water against your skin. Want to use a toy in the bath? Try one of our completely water-proof vibes such as the We-Vibe 3 or the Form 2 by Jimmy Jane.

Anal 101: A Beginner’s Guide

I’ll be honest… I like anal sex. I’ve had some of my strongest orgasms during anal sex. I also find there is a certain amount of trust and surrender I experience during anal sex, which is a wild turn-on for me. And, Mr. Big (my lover) likes anal sex, too. It’s pretty hot sex, not to mention a REALLY tight spot for him to put his penis. And what man doesn’t like tight?? But, HE also likes anal stimulation. Press his prostate and he’s putty in my hands.

But for most people, anal sex is such a taboo subject… something that is only done in porn or by gay men. Let’s face it… Most women fear it or find it to be too “dirty”. Most straight men have a fascination with it, but would never dream of stimulating that area on their own bodies. But, the truth be told, it can be very pleasurable for both men and women. It’s because the area is actually one of the most sensitive erogenous zones on your body! Here’s why…

FOR MEN:
*The prostate, located just at the front of the rectum, is essentially the male G-spot.
*This chestnut-sized gland is situated about two inches inside and can be found by slowly inserting a finger and pressing towards the penis.
*Stimulating it or applying pressure with a finger, tongue, or anal plug can provide INTENSE orgasms for men.

FOR WOMEN:
*The rectum is home to tons of nerve endings. Because of this, anal stimulation or sex can produce INTENSE orgasms for women, too!
*This is because anal intercourse, or using a plug, will put firm pressure to the g-spot.
*Also, using an anal plug tightens the vaginal wall, which will create more pleasure for you both!

Want to give it a try? Here are some tips for how to open the backdoor… (wink, wink)

Communicate – Communication is key before and during anal sex or stimulation. Talk to your partner about what you’d like to try, or what fears you may have. During your experimentation, let your partner know how things are going by telling them what you’d like more or less of, and if anything hurts.

Plan – Set aside some quality time to shop for toys and lubrication. Then, make sure you have plenty of time to experiment. Being relaxed is key!! So, make time to massage each other, cuddle, or make out. During your experimentation, GO SLOW. Rushing this is not going to work. Be patient with yourself and with your partner. Remember, this type of penetration requires more trust than traditional sex does. Plowing along full speed ahead can ruin the whole experience and cause your partner pain.

Prepare – Get to know your body and when you’re most “empty”. That can go a long way in keeping things clean. Your rectum is usually empty unless you really need to go. But, if you want to be 100% sure, a mild enema will make certain things are clean.

Lubricate – Your anus does not produce any natural lubrication. So, using a water-based, high quality lube will make things a lot easier. It will reduce friction and make any kind of anal penetration more comfortable. I suggest using System Jo’s H20 anal formula. If you are just really nervous about the pain, try using a desensitizing lubricant such as Liquid Sex’s anal formula. The numbing agent will take the edge off. But, it’s especially important to go slow and gentle with a numbing lube, as you won’t be able to feel if something is not working right.

Start Small – Not ready to jump straight into anal sex? Start with a small plug or vibrating toy, and then work your way up. Even a small toy can make a big impact in heightening your climax. Need ideas? Check out our anal toys online or visit us in-store for more selection!

At the end of the day, if anal stimulation and/or sex are not your thing, no big deal. It’s not for everyone. Sex should be about mutual pleasure. So, there is never any reason to do something you don’t like when your in the bedroom. But if you are the least bit intrigued, it’s worth giving it a try. Who knows? You make like it, and it could open up an entirely new dimension in your sex life. And as always, we at the RedDoor are happy to help you take it to the next level… 😉

It’s All About Kegels!

What are the kegel muscles?

The term “Kegel muscle” is used to refer to the muscles of the pelvic floor, the pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). The PC muscles hold your pelvic organs in place, control the flow of urine, and also contributes to sexual pleasure during intercourse. How? PC muscle are also responsible for the contractions you feel during an orgasm.

How do I find my kegel muscles?

To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream. If you succeed, you’ve got the right muscles.

How do I strengthen my kegel muscles?

You can strengthen you PC muscles by using ben-wa balls or simple exercises. Exercises should be done multiple times a day for maximum results. Keep reading to found out how!

What are kegel exercises?

Kegel exercises are the repetitive tightening and relaxing of the PC muscles.

Why should I do kegel exercises?

Kegel exercises won’t actually tighten your vagina. But, they will tone and strengthen your vaginal muscles, which can increase your ability to be aroused. Kegels will also create a tighter grip during intercourse. They can also help intensify contractions during orgasm, because they send more blow-flow to your nether regions!

HOW TO DO KEGEL EXERCISES:

STEP 1 –  Once you’ve identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and lie on your back. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, and then relax for five seconds. Try it four or five times in a row. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.

STEP 2 – For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.

STEP 3 – Repeat 3 times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.

HOW TO USE BEN-WA BALLS:

STEP 1 – Insert one ball at a time. Putting lubrication on the balls will help them glide in. Women have said that inserting the balls is similar to inserting a tampon. If you’re having trouble, you should lift one leg up. If that doesn’t work, try inserting them while lying down.

STEP 2 – Squeeze your leg muscles together and then your pelvic muscles together to hold the balls in. The balls should push down a little bit inside your vagina, and they will make your vagina feel “full”. Much like tampons, you should eventually get used to the feeling.

STEP 3 – Hold the balls inside for at least 15 minutes a day to strengthen your PC muscles. You can hold them in for hours for a better workout.

Visit us online at www.thereddoorstore.com for Ben-Wa balls and more!

The Clitoral Truth…

The Clitoral Truth: Facts every woman (and man) should know!

Wow. You don’t know how many people I have encountered who do not know what a clitoris is… OR what to do with it!! It’s SUCH an important part of a woman’s sexual pleasure. And because it’s so important, I’m dedicating a blog to educateing and enlightening you about the clitoris!

FACTS:

• The clitoris is a small bud-like formation that is located slightly above the opening to the vagina.
• Clitoris size and shape differs from woman to woman, but it is generally between 1/8″-3/8″ in size.
• The clitoris is the only human organ designed purely for pleasure, and no other reason.
• The clitoris is equivalent to the penis; it’s packed with nerve endings & becomes engorged when she’s aroused.
• Because the clitoris is like a penis, a woman almost always needs some sort of clitoral stimulation to climax.

VITAL INFO: 75% of women need clitoral stimulation to achieve orgasm. Penetration isn’t enough on its own.

TIPS:

• Consider pleasing her FIRST. Since most women need clitoral stimulation to reach orgasm, foreplay is a must!
• When pleasuring the clitoris manually or orally, go slowly and use lots of lube. Slow, steady, gentle, repetitive strokes will create a much more intense orgasm.
• For extra sensation, use a clitoral pump or a clitoral stimulating gel to increase blood flow.
• Positions for maximizing clit stimulation are girl on top and rear entry. Both provide access to the clitoris for either manual stimulation or vibrator stimulation. Check out our clitoral vibes here!
• Remember… Every woman is different! Talk to your partner about what makes HER happy and go from there!

Vibrators 101: things that make you go hmmm!

When you walk into one of our stores, we make a point to greet you with a warm welcome, as well as offer to answer any and all questions. We want you to feel safe and comfortable, like we’re a close friend with which you can share your secrets. Lots of customers jump right in and pick our brains for what’s hot. But, there are always the customers who quickly offer, “I’m just looking”, then hurriedly skitter away. Here’s what happens next… They wander around for a few minutes. They try NOT to look at any of the toys. Then, they sheepishly return to one of us and say, “I need help. I have no idea what I am looking for! I’ve never, ever bought something like this before!” We smile and jump right in to what I call our “101 talks.” Whatever you’re looking for, we know what to use, what’s the best of the best, and how to make the most of it.

One of the types of items we sell the most of would be vibrators. But, vibrators come in all kinds of shapes, sizes, and colors. Not to mention, the can serve a variety of functions in the bedroom. Therefore, we frequently give “Vibrator 101” talks as we guide nervous, yet curious customers around the store. So, here’s my run-down on vibrators, just for you:

The Basic – This is also called a “starter vibe.” It’s not phallic in shape and is usually made of a smooth plastic material. These vibes usually have limited functions and speeds (think slow/medium/fast). Basic vibes run from small to medium in size, but run small in girth. They are great for someone who is looking for a starter toy, or just wants something inexpensive and basic. I suggest the Velvet Touch Vibe, by Doc Johnson. If you want a little more excitement from a basic vibe, try one of our Climax Gems by Topco for a textured experience!

The Bullet – This is also often referred to as an egg. Bullets are usually bullet-shaped, wand-shaped, or egg-shaped. They are usually made of a smooth plastic, or may be covered in a soft gel or silicone material. These vibes can range in function from a simple 3-speed to a 10 function ability, complete with pulses and patterns. Often times, they are attached to a remote. But, you can buy wireless versions. They range in size from 1″ to about the size of an egg. They are great for someone who wants clitoral stimulation during sex or masturbation. They are also good for vaginal use, if you’re looking for something on the small side. Bullets can range in price and quality, but here are my top 3 suggestions:

• The Teardrop Bullet, by Doc Johnson – Small, powerful, quiet, inexpensive… all good things!
• The 10 Function Wireless Remote Bullet, by Pipedream Products – Small, powerful, 10 orgasmic functions, and works from 25 feet away
• The Tango, by We Vibe – Small, REALLY powerful, waterproof, rechargeable, with a wide range of vibrating modes

Vibrating Dildos/Dongs – Now we’re getting into some serious trouble! This is where you will begin to find more variety in the selection of toys. If you’re looking for a vibrator that may resemble your lover, this is where you want to start. Vibrating dildos are phallic in shape and resemble penises – veins, ridges, curves and all. They are made of soft gels and silicone. They come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Sizes range from 5″ to 12″ (unless you special order). Girths can range from the slender to the very hefty! And, these vibes come in colors from natural skin colors to wild colors like pink, purple, and blue. They may have only 3 speeds, or they may have multi-function settings that include pulses and patterns. They will range in price and quality. I suggest you try one of our EZ Bend Dongs, by California Exotics.

Rabbits/Multi-Stims – Rabbit is the generic term to describe a vibrator that has both a vaginal shaft, as well as an external stimulator for the clitoris. Sometimes, these toys also have a 3rd stimulator for anal penetration. Like vibrating dildos & dongs, they are made of soft gels and silicone. They come in all shapes, sizes, and colors. Sizes range from 5″ to 10″ (unless you special order). Girths can range from the slender to the very hefty! And, these vibes come in colors from natural skin colors to wild colors like pink, purple, and blue. They may have only 3 speeds, or they may have multi-function settings that include pulses and patterns. They will range in price and quality. Where they differ from vibrating dildos & dongs in that they often do not look realistic and may have see-through shafts which contain rotating beads. I suggest these toys, if you’re looking for a rabbit:

• For beginner’s – Try a Platinum Butterfly Kiss, by California Exotics. It’s small and has multi-function vibrations.
• For serious fun – Try the Thrusting Jack Rabbit, by California Exotics. Thrusting action and multi-function vibrations – YES!
• For premium fun – Try the Thrill by We-Vibe, or the Ina by Lelo. High quality, rechargeable, multi-function toys designed for maximum pleasure!

G-Spot Vibrators – A G-spot vibrator is any of the about toys, but with a curved shaft specifically designed to put pressure on the g-spot. By applying pressure to the g-spot, you increase sexual pleasure, as well as the likelihood and intensity of orgasm. For maximum g-spot stimulation, I suggest the Gigi, by Lelo. The Gigi is the ultimate mid-size G-spot massager with a flattened tip is designed specifically for that erogenous zone. It’s also rechargeable and whisper-quiet, with 5 adjustable stimulation modes.

Wands/Personal Massagers – These toys are essentially the same as a personal back massagers. They are wand shaped, high-powered, with a large vibrating heads. Wands are not used for penetration and are external toys only. These toys usually do not have multi-function patterns or pulses, but instead have ranges in speed from low to high. Wands are best for women who have difficulty achieving orgasm, or do not climax with traditional vibrating toys. They range in price and size – from mini to full length (about 10″ long). Wands usually have a plug-in cord, but do come in battery-powered and rechargeable styles. For someone interested in a wand, I suggest trying the Bodywand Mini, by Bodywand. Start small to see if this is the type of toy for you. If so, invest in something bigger and more powerful!

So, that’s Vibrators 101. I hope you learned something new! There’s also vibrating glass toys, vibrating anal toys, vibrating panties, vibrating cock-rings, vibrating tongue rings, and many, many more things that can make you go hmmm… But, I will save all that for another day, another blog, another 101 class!!