Product Reviews

Fun Sex Toys!

Usually, sex jokes and gag gifts are reserved for Dirty Santa games or Bachelor/Bachelorette parties. You know… inflatable goats, boob sunglasses, hopping penises, and such. But fun toys like these don’t have to be limited to special occasions. Sex should be fun. It’s ok to laugh and get silly. And throwing a little humor into your life can reduce tension and nerves around trying something new.

So here are some fun and silly toys from our collection, found in-store and online at the RedDoor!

1. Clone-A-Willy Glow Kit – Designed by a doctor, it’s a complete kit that perfectly copies a mans own penis in super realistic, glow-in-the-dark rubber. Each kit comes with easy to follow instructions and includes everything necessary to produce an EXACT rubber copy of any penis!


2. Mini Mini Monkey Vibe – No need for a banana with the Mini Mini Monkey; theres plenty of stimulation in store for your clitoris from this vigorous variable speed vibe. Free of phthalates and toxins, its low maintenance and discreetly portable. Ready to swing? Just switch on the monkey and enjoy.


3. X-Rated Beer Pong – X-Rated Beer Pong Inflatable Drinking & Dare Game for adults only. Beer Pong Game Sink It, Drink It! Then do it! Crack open a couple cold ones and get ready for the naughtiest, nastiest game of Beer Pong ever imagined! We have taken the hottest craze around college towns – Beer Pong – and combined it with one of the most classic hook-up games of all times X-Rated dirty dares!


4. Penis Pokey – This book contains no nudity. No profanity. No sexual material of any kind. And yet it just might be the most obscene thing we’ve ever published! Penis Pokey is an illustrated board book with a large die-cut hole in its center. Every spread features a dazzling full-color illustration with one thing missing a banana, perhaps, or a fire hose, or a sea serpent. Male readers can complete the illustrations using the talents God has given them. Are we serious? Yes! Is this funny? Absolutely!


5. Paco’s Taco Stroker – Make self-love more fun with Paco’s Taco, an ultra-soft open-faced stroker that puts pleasure in the palm of your hand! Reusable with Paco’s “Sauce” lubricant included, Paco’s Taco satisfies every time – simply open the box, liberally apply our “sauce”, and wrap around your “meat.” Second and third helpings are encouraged!


6. Fleshlight Alien – The ultimate alien fantasy has landed. The new Fleshlight Alien is an unworldly experience that will abduct your penis and send it spiraling through in a real milky way! Use the Alien for the ultimate in E.T. ecstasy. The exclusive Alien texture combines the feel of three of our most popular textures to create one out-of-this-world experience. Tantalizing sinews swirl together mimicking our famous Vortex canal before breaking through to a Lotus node that finally gives way to our most intense texture, the STU.


7. Wonderland Kinky Kat Cock Ring – Follow this buzzing kitty into a world of fantasy and pleasure. The Kinky Kat C-Ring features a removable clitoral bullet with push-button control and 10 intense functions for clitoral stimulation during sex. You will fall in love with this cock ring for its regal look, storybook design, and the grinning cat at the tip that was just made for teasing. This playful kitty wants to see you smile!


8. Flirt Finger Tingle Bunny – Let your finger do the flirting. Adorably cute, cleverly shaped, mini silicone reuseable finger vibe. Made of 100% medical grade silicone and phthalate free ABS. Feel the waves of strong vibration all the way through to the tips of the bunny ears! Great for clitoral or body stimulation. Use one on each finger tip for an experience to remember.


Add Some Shades of Grey to Your Life…

You’ve read the books. You’ve seen the movie… and even if you haven’t, surely you’ve heard all about Fifty Shades of Grey! Women everywhere have been stirred up for the last two years thanks to the erotic sensation! Toys sales have gone up. Couples are experimenting more. And, sex has been a hot topic in the media. All of this has created an opportunity for lovers to get a little kinkier without feeling embarrassed. So now it’s time to add some shades of grey to your own sex life! Here are our favorites from the exclusive Fifty Shades of Grey Collection available online and in-store at the RedDoor:

Shop the complete collection online at the RedDoor!


Fun Things to Do with Lube!

Check out our extensive selection of System Jo lubes!

Check out our extensive selection of System Jo lubes!

Lube is always a great addition to your sex life. It can be used to enhance the pleasurable sensations of sex and masturbation. Lube can also aid with vaginal dryness or discomfort. Plus, it can provide flavor during oral sex, which also increases salivation. And when used with condoms, lube increases pleasure for both partners and decreases the risk of condom breakage. Want to know more? Read here to discover all the fun you can have with lube!

  • Spread a warming lube like Wet’s Warming Gel on his balls. Then, give him oral while lightly massaging his balls.
  • Slip a few drops of lube inside his condom before he slips it on. The added sensation will feel amazing for him.
  • Slick up any of your sex toys or vibes with a water-based lube like Pjur’s Woman Aqua Gel. Then, hand the toy over to your partner to use on you!
  • Put a few drops of warming lube on your hands. Then, give him a slick hand job he’ll never forget.
  • Drop some warming lube into a masturbator like a Climax Gem Stroker. Then give him a life-like masturbation experience!
  • Spread a strawberry-flavored lube on his cock and lick it like a lollipop. Try Sex Tart’s Strawberry Punch lube for a true candy taste!
  • Slick lube on your boobs. Then, slide your boobs up and down his back for a super hot massage!
  • Spread warming lube between your ta-tas. Then, gently guide his penis in and out of your cleavage.
  • Give each other a sexy back massage using a few drops of a massage glide such as System Jo’s Warming Massage Glide. Glides are an all-in-one lube that act as a massage oil AND personal lubricant!
  • While you go down on him, lube up your thumb and use it to massage the spot between his balls and rectum.
  • Drizzle a flavored lube on your labia and clitoris and have your partner lick it off while trying to guess the flavor.
  • Spread cooling lube like System Jo’s H2O Cooling lube on your fingers. Then, use them to massage each others nipples. You can also blow on them for an added sensation!
  • Tell your partner they can only use their hands on you. Spread a few drops of lube on their hands and let them go at it.
  • Lay a towel down on your bed. Then, cover your bodies in a silicone lube such as Liquid Sex Silicone. Finally, enjoy the erotic sensation of sliding up and down each other’s bodies while you get it on.
  • Keep a small bottle of lube hidden behind the shampoo for spontaneous wet fun! We suggest Sex in the Shower Lube, which is specially formulated for sex in water!

Got a fun idea to share? Let us know!

Need lube? Check out our extensive selection online – flavored, organic, silicone, water-based, hybrid, glides, anal formulas, numbing, and much, much more! Shop here: The RedDoor Lotions & Potions!

G-Spot 101: A Map to Her Happy Place

How can you take her orgasms from “oh” to “OOOHHH”? By discovering her g-spot! This unique spot within the vaginal wall contains nerve-packed tissue that when stimulated properly can create intense orgasms. Set aside some time with your partner to explore this erogenous zone, and take her orgasms to a whole new level…

What is the g-spot?

The g-spot is the walnut-shaped, spongy tissue of the paraurethral gland. It’s known as the female prostate because its tissue surrounds an area that produces chemicals similar to those made by the male prostate. The actual area is only about the size of a quarter, but it feels rougher to the touch than the surrounding tissue. Underneath the g-spot is extremely sensitive tissue that, when stimulated properly, triggers feelings of sexual happiness. It is located about one to two inches back from the vaginal opening inside the front vaginal wall.

How can I find the g-spot?

Start by spreading her legs with her knees bent, so her vagina is open and accessible. Stimulate her clitoris and get her sufficiently aroused. The g-spot will be much easier to find this way. Then, with the palm of your hand facing up, insert two fingers inside, pressing your fingertips against the center of the upper vaginal wall. Using moderate pressure, slowly rub your fingers along the wall looking for a ridged or textured area. The g-spot should feel slightly rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall. If you find it, your partner will definitely know and feel an deep arousal, or even the sensation of needing to urinate.

How can I stimulate the g-spot?

1. Tapping – The is an effective way of stimulating the g-spot without a lot of fuss. Simply use the tip of your finger to tap firmly and repeatedly on her G-spot. This slowly builds waves of sensation which can lead to an intense climax.

2. Girl on top – Activating the g-spot in missionary position is almost next to impossible. The best positions for g-spot stimulation are girl-on-top. Try traditional girl-on-top with your partner tilted slightly back, leaning away from you. Or try reverse cowgirl (read here for tips on this position). These positions work best because it forces your penis to rub against the upper vaginal wall, making the g-spot much easier to stimulate.

3. Prop up her bottom – If you are set on missionary, you must elevate her hips. The incline forces your penis to press directly into the g-spot zone! An added bonus? It also makes for maximum penetration. I suggest using one of our many Liberator ramp styles. Compared to a traditional pillow, the high-density foam of a Liberator ramp, maintains its shape, supports the body, and prevents sinking into the bed.

4. Try a toy – Take the guesswork out of finding and stimulating her g-spot. Many toys are designed to specifically to locate and stimulate the g-spot. Their curved shapes automatically put pressure on the g-spot… and the vibrations help stimulate it, too! For maximum g-spot bliss, try one of these stimulating toys:

  • Sensuelle Impulse Slimline –  If you have the urge to try something new, the Sensuelle Impulse Slimline Vibe Black will exceed your expectations. It has a deceptively simple, sleek design starting with the subtle grooves and continues on to the special hook handle. Do not be fooled, as the Sensuelle Impulse has special hidden features aimed to unveil your sensuality. It has a deeply intense motor, with multi function modes, designed to create powerful sensations easily with the touch of a finger.
  • Juicy Jewels Tangerine Dream – Diamonds used to be a girl’s best friend…until they tried one of these precious Juicy Jewels. Made from super-soft phthalate-free jelly, these incredible vibes deliver thrilling sensations and lasting satisfaction, in or out of water.
  • Wonderland Pleasurepillar – The world of WonderLand is full of erotic surprises and satisfying delights. Get spot-on stimulation with the Pleasurepillar. A mysterious character, this playful silicone caterpillar features a g-spot curve, 10 powerful functions, and a waterproof design that will make you positively squirm with delight. You can take the fantasy with you, wherever you may go, through the looking glass and beyond!
  • OVO K2 Rabbit – The German Designed K2 Rabbit from ovo is rounded for comfortable use and features a double application. The K2 is showerproof, whisper quiet and constructed of lead-free, phthalate-free, 100% body-safe silicone material. Additional features include: powerful motor; 5 programs; standard battery usage. Uses AAA cells. The K2 has been honored with a red dot design award – honourable mention 2013.
  • We-Vibe 4 – Available in stores! The world’s no. 1 couples vibrator, completely redesigned for better fit, heightened intensity and more control. She wears it during sex for extra stimulation to her clitoris and g-spot. Together you both share the vibe.
  • LELO Gigi – Available in stores! GIGI is a pleasure object dedicated to G-spot joy and more. Carefully sculpted to unlock the secrets of this mysterious and special place, her dramatic shape will ensure success. Five pre-programmed stimulation modes and a virtually silent vibrator engine deliver deep and vibrant sensations with spot-on precision. Her stem houses an impressively vibrant pleasure point, while the intuitive interface dial lets you control vibration intensity and stimulation mode to craft your own experience.


Deep throat confessional…

I am a pro at sucking dick. Yes, I admit it… I give stellar blowjobs. Past partners have gone nuts over my oral skills (pun intended). I get into it. I consider giving blowjobs an art, and strive to make it the best experience possible for my partner. I use my hands and tongue. I take it as deep as I can, and even like to gag a little. I make sure the balls are loved and will throw in anal teasing, if those things please my partner! It’s one of my favorite things to do. In fact, I sometimes prefer a partner to cum down my throat after we’ve fucked a while. I just think it’s hot to taste myself on their cock.

So how do you give a good blowjob? Each man will have a different take on what is good, what they like. But, most men will say that taking their cock deep into your throat is a must. I think part of this is because it provides the head of the penis the most sensation. The back of the throat is a tight spot and probably feel a lot like a vagina. Also, the deeper you can take their cock into your mouth, the more attention the shaft gets. And, well, it’s probably also a power trip. Thrusting your cock as far as you can into someone’s mouth has to feel amazingly powerful.

Our customers like to please their partners. So I get a lot of questions about helping women orgasm, etc. And many customers have asked me, “How do you learn to take it deep?” So, I thought I would drop some wisdom on the best way to deep throat a cock…

1. Relax! The gag reflex is triggered by a combination of psychology and physiology. So, if you are nervous, tense, or uptight about deep throating, it’s not going to work. Relaxing your body allows the muscles in your mouth and neck to loosen up, and therefore be ready to take it deep.

2. Figure out where your gag reflex is… and then work to desensitize it. You can do this using your toothbrush. Simply find your gag spot and brush it for 10 seconds a night. Once you’ve stopped gagging at that point, move your toothbrush further back.

3. Breathe through your nose. Practice this by holding a banana or cucumber in your mouth, breathing through your nose for as long as possible without wanting to gasp. Again, it helps if you are relaxed!

4. Get it the right position! You want to be in a position where you can slightly tilt your head back, which helps straighten out your neck. This creates a straight line from your mouth to the back of your throat, allowing the penis to slide in deep. Two of the best positions to be in are: 1) both of you lying on your sides, or 2) with your head leaning over the edge of the bed. Play around with these to find which is most comfortable for you!

5. Use a flavored lube! I know that saliva provides natural lubrication. But that’s not quite enough for deep throating a cock. An rock-hard, erect penis will glide much easier into the throat, if it is well lubricated. Try one of our flavors from Sex Tarts. The tart lube not only provides a slick flavor, but the tartness increase your saliva production.

6. Practice and go slow at first! If you take it deep and want to gag, stop and leave his cock there for as long as you can before having him pull back. Do this process as many times as you can handle. Eventually, you’ll work your away to taking him deeper and deeper into the back of your throat. Remember to be patient with yourself and your lover. You’re trying to overcome a natural instinct to gag, which is much like trying to overcome the urge to blink!

7. If all else fails… use a numbing spray to desensitize the back of your throat. I suggest Comfortably Numb. This spray comes with E-Z spray nozzle that produces an ultra fine mist to coat and numb the throat. It’s flavored and specially formulated to reduce the gag reflex and prevent discomfort during deep throating.

Need more tips? Check out our selection of books on blowjobs and oral sex!



The Case for Setting the Mood


I don’t know about you, but I have a VERY busy schedule. I work a full-time, Monday through Friday job. I am raising a child. I have friends and social obligations. And there’s housework and errands… and granted, I am single right now. But, if I had a partner, there would be even more on my plate. So, at the end of the day, if there is time for sex, it would most likely be of the quickie variety.

Now don’t get me wrong – quickies are fun, too. I mean, sex is sex. Right? And even when it’s bad, it’s good. It’s like a scoop of ice cream – always a tasty treat. But, don’t you sometimes want hot fudge on your ice cream? Maybe even whipped cream and a cherry?

Well, you should think of sex the same way, too – sometimes it’s nice to dress it up with some extra flavors! Sometimes, you should take the time to set the mood. Sometimes, you should go the extra mile to make sex and experience. Why? Let me tell you…

  • It breaks up the monotony. Simply taking a hot bubble bath together or lighting a few candles will mix things up.
  • It inspires you… and your partner. Maybe your partner wasn’t in the mood. But, when they see that you took the time to sprinkle rose petals on the bed, they’ll relax and find a way to say “thank you”.
  • It can bring out the passion you’ve been too busy to harness.
  • But most of all, it makes your partner feel special, which in turn will make the sex more romantic and intimate.

So how can you set the mood? Here are a few tips:

  • Invite your partner into the bedroom for an intimate massage. The thrill of touch will relax your partner, and bring you closer together. For this, try System Jo’s Lavender Massage Glide. Lavender has a calming effect and smells wonderful. Plus, the massage glide is silicone based and never leaves your skin feeling greasy, oily or tacky. What’s even better? This massage glide doubles as a lubricant!
  • Run the hot water and treat your partner to a relaxing bubble bath. I suggest using Dona Cleanse bath foam. This is no ordinary bubble bath foam. It’s actually infused with aphrodisiacs to help you relax and increase sensuality!
  • Buy your partner something sexy and set it out on the bed for them to try on. Help them undress slowly. Then, help them slip into the something special you’ve picked out. Once they’re ready, ask them to slowly undress you! Dressing and undressing each other can be very intimate and erotic. And check out our large selection of lingerie for inspiration on what you’d like them to wear!
  • Make a unique love-making mix for your iPod. Dim the lights in the room and hit play! Then, ask your partner to join you in a slow dance. Want to make things even more sensual? Try a Club Vibe 2.OH. Club Vibe 2.OH is a revolutionary wireless remote control vibrator that beats to the rhythm of your music.
  • Dim the lights and use scented candles to create an air of romance. And for this, I suggest any of our scented massage candles. These candles will fill your room with an alluring scent, And, they melt down into a sensual, warm, and edible  massaging oil!

So make some time to take your love-making from vanilla to hot fudge sundae! You won’t regret the effort!

Be Smooth, Play HARD: Glass, Ceramic, and Metal Sex Toys


When you think of sex toys, you probably envision the traditional dildo or dong… a brightly colored, rubbery toy that’s easy to fling around and use as a weapon (if you’re feeling silly). And truth be told, despite the often humorous appearance of these toys, they can feel really amazing when used for pleasure. Many of them even have life-like appearances and feels. Good ones can come pretty close to mimicking the real deal. And if you add in vibrations, rotating beads, and rabbit-heads? Well, watch the fuck out! You’re definitely going to have a good time or two… or four…

But have you ever craved something different? Have you wanted to try something a little edgier? Or, maybe your body doesn’t like the traditional toys. You get yeast infections, or are allergic to the materials…

Well, I have a sexy solution for both of those problems – glass, ceramic, and metal sex toys!

Let me tell you about the more erotic benefits first:

  • To begin with, glass, ceramic, and metal toys are extremely hard, unbreakable in fact. And they tend to be heavy. The hard and heavy nature of these toys creates an entirely different sensation, compared to traditional toys, when used vaginally or anally. And they tend to have more heft, and therefore pressure, in the orifice of choice!
  • Traditional toys have much more friction due to their rubbery surface. Glass, ceramic, and metal toys are completely smooth. Their smooth surface has almost zero friction. The in-and-out sensation is more like a glide. This makes them perfect to use as anal toys because the reduced friction makes for easier penetration.
  • Unlike traditional toys, glass, ceramic, and metal toys can hold heat and cold. Pop them in ice water or warm water, and you’ll have an instantly different feeling!

And what about the health benefits?

  • Unlike traditional toys, glass, ceramic, and metal toys are non-porous. This means they will not hold onto bacteria like traditional toys. So, if you are prone to yeast or bacterial infections, these are the perfect toys for you!
  • Many people are allergic to the materials of traditional toys. Glass, ceramic, and metal toys are free from silicone, rubber, latex, and phthalates!

And then there are the practical benefits:

  • You can use any type of lube with these types of toys. Plus, their smooth surface means you can use less lube, AND the lube will last even longer than on traditional toys.
  • They are extremely durable and will last forever. The materials won’t degrade and there are no parts to break!
  • Also, glass, ceramic, and metal toys are extremely easy to clean. You can just pop them in the dishwasher!

Curious and want to try out a glass, ceramic, or metal toy? Let me suggest a few of my favorites…

Metal Worx Slim Fave – This is a luxurious, metal, dual-ended pleasure probe. Cast in high quality steel and hand-polished to perfection, this all-in-one exciter is perfect for vaginal or anal play and equal parts art and pleasure. The hygienic metal finish is sleek, non-porous, and easy to clean, while the design is body-inspired and made to excite.

Icicles #7 – Hand-crafted with amazing attention to detail, this luxurious glass massager will leave you breathless. This glass wand is sleek, unique, and made to play hard. And, the pleasure bubbles will glide effortlessly against all the right places!

Don Wands Real Tip Rocket Blue – Beautiful to look at, fun to play with! This realistically shaped glass toy will never lose it’s erection!

Overall, glass, ceramic and metal toys are a highly erotic, body-safe, AND an exciting way to add something new to your sex life! So, don’t be shy… Give one of these toys a try! I promise you won’t be disappointed!

Lube 101: The Do’s and Dont’s of Lubrication

Lube can be a great addition to your sex life. It can enhance the pleasurable sensations of sex and masturbation. Lube can also aid with vaginal dryness or discomfort. It can also provide flavor during oral sex, which also increase salivation. Plus, when used with condoms, lube increases pleasure for both partners and decreases the risk of condom breakage.

The three main types of lube are:

  • Water-Based – Water-based lubes rinse off easily from skin and fabric. They are generally cheaper and easier to find than silicone-based lube. And, they are less likely to cause yeast infections.
  • Silicone-Based – Silicone lubes are oil-based, last longer than water-based lube, and are best for anal sex.
  • Flavored – Flavored lubes are usually a water-based lube with flavor added. They can come in a huge variety of flavors and are best for oral sex, especially when using a condom.

Do’s and Don’ts with lubrication:

DO: Know how to use lube. Add a drop inside the condom before sex to increase sensation for the man. Add a few drops to the outside of the condom to reduce friction and breakage. Reapply as needed.

DON’T: Use flavored lube that contains sugar for vaginal sex. The sugars in some flavored lube can cause yeast infections. Make sure you purchase a flavored lube that is sugar-free, if you plan to use it for vaginal sex.

DON’T: Use an oil-based product as lube with condoms or sex-toys. Oil-based products rapidly degrade latex condoms and many of the materials sex-toys are made of! Oil-based products include Vaseline, baby oil, olive oil, chocolate syrup, whipped cream, and hand or body lotion. As a rule of thumb, do not use any cooking or beauty products as lube; only use products specifically designed for sex.

DO: Use lube for anal sex…. every time! Lube is a must for anal sex. Since the anus is not self-lubricating, anal sex without lube is painful and risky. Friction during anal sex can cause tears to the tissue, increasing risk of STIs, including HIV. To reduce tearing and increase pleasure, apply lube (and a condom) before penetration, and reapply as needed.

DO: Use silicone-based lube during anal sex. Because the anus and rectum absorb water, silicone-based lube lasts longer than water-based lube. If the only lube available to you is water-based lube, use it and reapply often.

And as always, we carry a HUGE selection of brands and styles of lubes: water-based, silicone, flavored, gel, organic, warming, cooling, stimulating, couple’s, hybrid, and more!

The Case for High End Toys… by Danny Z

Often as I was growing up, my mother would tell me, “buy the best you can afford.” It’s something that has stuck with me as an adult. Of course we’ve all heard the saying, “you get what you pay for.” I’m cool with that. I understand that not everything is made to last, quality is relative, and rarely does something cheap last. But buying the best you can afford is a little different. It requires the understanding of the value of an item.

See, I am the kind of person who only wants to purchase something once. I’ll buy exactly what I want, even if I had to save up for it. And since I am on a budget, my money is important to me! With that in mind, I do my research ahead of time and want to make sure I don’t waste my money. I do this with almost anything I buy, from vitamins to replacement parts for my bicycle. Amazon and customer reviews are my best friends. They help me justify any purchase I make! And since I am an avid instore buyer, I need that feedback to feel confident in my purchase. Overall, I understand that I am paying a little more here and there for quality. But with that financial sacrifice, I am rewarded with many advantages.

In the world of sex toys, the same principles apply. There are low quality vibes for those on a budget. There’s the mid grade stuff… the stuff that will last a little longer and can handle a little aggression. Then there are the high end toys, which are a completely different level of quality and pleasure. I am not trying to sell you on high end toys, that high end is only the way to go. I love all the product lines we sell. But, I believe in quality and want you to be happy with your purchase. So, as a person who rarely experiences buyer’s remorse, I feel that I should share my wisdom with customers.

Why high end toys? Many of them come with a warranty of a year or more, whereas lower/mid quality toys usually only come with a 30 day warranty. Some higher end toys even have three year and to 15 year warranties. That’s insane! That’s like a car warranty! And it says something about the toys… It says that the manufacturer strongly believes in the quality and durability of their products. That is comforting to know, that my money is coming with the promise that it is not going to waste! No one wants to be disappointed by a manufacturer’s defect, if you know what I mean.

And speaking of quality, almost all high end toys are rechargeable and water proof (literally submergable, like you can play with it in the tub without a worry in the world). They are also made with better quality materials such as medical grade silicone and superior motors. In fact, the motors/vibrations on high toys tend to be faster and/or deeper than less expensive toys. So not only are you paying for quality and durability, your paying for stronger orgasms and greater pleasure!

Whether you need to stick to a budget or you want to splurge, research the products ahead of time! Ask questions! We are here to help, and there is a ton of great information online about most of our toys. At the end of the day, we want you to be happy with your purchase, even if it was with one of our lesser priced toys. But remember what my mom said… “buy the best you can afford.” I don’t think you can ever go wrong with that!

PORN… and lots of it!

I like porn. Is that weird?

If you’re a guy, you’re probably not all that impressed with my declaration. Most guys watch porn. But, if you asked most women, I bet they’d deny ever having watched it. There was a time that I was like that. I thought porn was degrading to women, a form of exploitation. At some point in my adult life, I began to lighten up and enjoy watching it – alone or with a partner. I no longer see it as a bad thing, but as a pleasurable thing that can enhance my masturbation or sex life with a partner.

For me, anal and girl-on-girl porn have the biggest turn-ons. I occasionally like Hentai, as there is something erotic about the domination and destruction of innocence that often happens in Hentai. And, I am more interested in realistic looking porn. The overly made-up and staged stuff doesn’t do it for me. I like my porn to look real, as if these two (or more) people just decided to get it on and happened to have a camera. I also like intense porn, where one act is focused on at length. All the switching up and changing acts or positions is too distracting. Got a girl munching down hard-core on another girl? Yes. Got a guy pounding away on an asshole while the girl cries in pain? Yes.

When I am alone, porn is a great escape. I’m a visual person and a creative person. I need that visual stimulation to get turned on. So, if I am masturbating, porn gets me going better than fantasizing does. But, it’s not only the visuals. In realistic porn, the audio gets me turned on, too. All that moaning and groaning really heightens my masturbation experience.

When I am with a partner, porn just makes it more interesting. I like to curl up next to someone and watch a video that may feature something we’d like to try. Or, maybe it’s something we like to do together already, and we just want to get the juices flowing. Besides, laying next to your partner, feeling them get hard because of the porn… that’s a big turn-on. And then while watching, touching each other or ourselves… that can be very hot! Also, have you ever allowed your partner to watch porn while you do whatever the porn-star is doing? It’s like your partner is getting to be in the porn. It’s like living out the fantasy of having sex with someone else without having to cheat.

And did you know that research shows porn can be beneficial for couples? Yes! It’s true! There are studies that show watching more porn results in increased sex drive and activity between partners, either when the partners watched it alone or together. Research has also shown that porn makes couples more spontaneous and less inhibited. So, not only were they more likely to have sex, more often, they were more likely to try new things! And, porn has been shown to improve your technique. Think about it… when watching porn, don’t you learn new tricks? Yes, yes you do!

If you’ve never watched porn, I can see how you’d be intimidated. The actors tend to have hot bodies, big boobs, and large dicks. But, try watching amateur porn. It’s full of people just like you and I. Want to give it a go? Try a free website like,, or You can search by category and focus on what you like. Don’t want to search on the computer? Pick up a $9.99 video from our stores. We carry very tame titles and couples oriented videos for the faint of heart. Also, try watching the porn alone at first. If you don’t like it, you’ve only wasted your time and you haven’t gotten your partner’s hopes up. Then, if you do like it, mention it to your partner and see their eyes light up! I promise that anything you pick out, from wild to tame, will turn them on.