Celebrate National Masturbation Month

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International Masturbation Day is an annual event celebrated on May 7th to protect the right to masturbate. The first National Masturbation Day was first observed on May 7th, 1995. It was created in honor of Surgeon General Joycelyn Elders, who was fired by President Bill Clinton for suggesting masturbation be a part of sex education curriculum for students. Since then, International Masturbation Day has been expanded to include the entire month of May, known as International Masturbation Month!

At the RedDoor, we love masturbation! We encourage you to celebrate International Masturbation Month as often as possible during the month of May. Why? As San Fran based Good Vibrations puts it,  “Of all the kinds of sex people can have, masturbation is the most universal and important, yet few people talk about it freely. Worse, many people still feel it is “second best” or problematic in some way. Masturbation Month lets us emphasize how great it is. it’s natural, common, and fun!” Plus, whether you’re single, or just need a little alone time without your partner, masturbation is a great way to release sexual energy. Aside from being fun, masturbation has also be proven to be good for you! It can boost your immunity, relieve stress, help with sexual function, and may even reduce risks of cancer. For some great tips on masturbation, click here.

And in honor of International Masturbation Month, here’s a fun Masturbation Challenge to inspire and stimulate you! See how many you can check off the list…

  • Masturbate to porn
  • Masturbate in the shower
  • Masturbate in the car
  • Masturbate at work
  • Masturbate without your hands
  • Masturbate outside
  • Masturbate with someone watching
  • Masturbate using an anal toy
  • Masturbate at a party
  • Masturbate in the bathroom of a restaurant
  • Masturbate in the bathroom of a bar
  • Masturbate first thing in the morning before getting up
  • Masturbate while reading erotica
  • Masturbate in the kitchen
  • Masturbate laying next to some who’s masturbating
  • Masturbate, record a video, and send it to your partner
  • Masturbate with a vibrating toy
  • Masturbate with the shower head
  • Masturbate, but don’t cum
  • Masturbate with your underwear on
  • Masturbate with your clothes on
  • Masturbate to a nude magazine
  • Masturbate to a picture of your favorite star
  • Masturbate with a warming lube or gel
  • Masturbate with a cooling lube or gel
  • Masturbate with a pillow
  • Masturbate instead of taking a booty call
  • Masturbate and tweet about it
  • Masturbate your partner while they masturbate you

Got a idea for the challenge? Comment below! Need inspiration? Visit the RedDoor online!

Sexy New Year’s Resolutions for 2016

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It’s that time of year again… The Holidays are drawing to a close. The year is almost over. And, we are all gearing up for New Year’s Eve celebrations.

If you are like most people, you’re thinking of resolutions for the new year. Even if you don’t call them resolutions, we all promise ourselves that we’ll do something differently in the coming year. This year, skip the promises to eat right, exercise more, drink less… Make resolutions you’ll actually keep! Research has shown that the more you want it, the more likely you are to keep a resolution. And what do we all want more than anything? HOT SEX!!

So, here are my sexy New Year’s resolutions for 2016:

1. Be more spontaneous – Don’t forget the old adage: where there is a will, there is a way! When the mood strikes you, make it happen. But don’t just make this about spontaneous sex… include random kisses, hugs, groping, and compliments. All of these things will make your sex life sexier!

2. Try new things – As much as possible, experiment with new positions in the bedroom. Or, try new toys or play accessories. Hell, thinking of new places to have sex can spice things up. And here’s a way to help you keep things new and exciting: write all the new things you want to try on little slips of paper, then throw them in the jar. As often as possible, draw one from the jar and make it happen!

3. Communicate – Seems simple, right? Well, most people do not talk to their partners about what they want and need. Make this your year to open up about sex and tell them what you like, how often you want it, and why you like it!

4. Get kinky – Being kinky doesn’t mean you have to delve into the BDSM lifestyle. But, adding a little bit of kink can go a long way to having sexier sex in the new year. Haven’t watched porn together? Do it. Want to try some bondage? Buy some silk rope. Never role-played? Buy the school girl outfit.

5. Stop making excuses – Headaches, lack of time, lack of desire… we all have excuses for why we don’t have sex. But, even a little foreplay can go a long way in making you happier and your relationship stronger. So, find the time to please and be pleased.

6. Be intimate – Sex does not equal intimacy. But, the more intimate you are with each other, the more you’ll want sex, and the more fulfilling it will be. So, take warm showers with each other, snuggle, hold hands, massage each other, hug… Anything that brings you closer together is well worth the effort and will make for a better 2016!

7.  Show your sexy side – Buy sexy lingerie to wear for him. Greet her in the nude when she gets home. Send sexy texts. Dress up from head to toe and take each other for a romantic date. Turn on your most seductive playlist and dance with or for each other. Whisper naughty thought to each other in the grocery store… Making an effort to keep your partner intrigued, aroused, and interested will keep the heat turned up all year long.

Here’s to a happy, healthy, prosperous, and sexy 2016!!

Cock Rings 101: It’s a Cinch!

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Cock rings are one of the few sex toys designed for the penis. Rings can be a functional and fun part of sex play for men. By restricting blood flow in the penis, rings can change the way erections feel, how long they last, and what orgasm and ejaculation feels like. If you’re curious about them, here’s what you need to know.

What is a cock ring?
Cock rings are just that – a ring that is placed around the penis and/or scrotum. They are used to restrict blood flow out of the penis. They are also used create the a pleasurable sensation of tightness and pressure.

Can they cure ED?
Not really… but some men do find that wearing cock rings help make their erections firmer or longer-lasting.

Start with stretch.
Solid cock rings are more restrictive as your erection grows and are only recommended for men with experience with using a cock ring. Beginners should start with a soft, stretchy, and flexible ring. They are easier to put on and take off, and don’t provide as much restriction. I suggest the 3 pack Island Rings. Island Rings contains 3 sizes of soft and stretchy all-purpose rings. They are inexpensive, so you don’t have to spend a lot to try out cock rings. If you like the feel of a cock ring, you can upgrade to something sturdier or more exotic.

Lube up.
Dab on a small amount of personal lubricant on the ring (or your penis) before you put the ring on. This makes slipping on the ring much easier. It will reduce the risk of pinching of your skin or pulling hairs. I suggest our staff favorite – Swiss Navy water based lubricant. It’s super slick and long-lasting, but won’t damage the cock ring. Just go easy on the lube! Too much can make the ring slide off.

Put it on.
You may want to man-scape ahead of time to reduce the risk of snagging hairs, but lubing up should help. Simply stretch the cock ring enough so that you can slide it around the base of the penis, behind the scrotum. It should be snuggly around your cock and balls. However, if it feels uncomfortable at this point, you may want to try out a bigger ring or one with more stretch. You can also try sliding the ring just around the shaft of your penis.

Test it out.
Before you use the ring with a partner, make time to try it out on your own. It can be tricky the first few times you put a ring on or take it off. Getting used to using the ring solo will make things less stressful, awkward, or clumsy when you venture into using it with a partner. Try masturbating with a ring on. You will get used to how the ring feels with movement and friction. To begin with, you may want to remove it after five or ten minutes so you can become familiar with the various sensations cock rings provide.

Play it safe.
If you ever feel pain or discomfort with a cock ring, remove it immediately! Also, don’t wear one for too long. 30 minutes is the maximum time most doctor’s and manufacturers recommend. And never, ever use a homemade cock ring. They can harm the skin, be difficult to get off, and cause many other not so fun consequences! Why risk a trip to the ER when you can pick a cock ring up at the RedDoor?

Tips and Tricks.

Be careful when using condoms with a cock ring. The friction from the ring rubbing against the condom can cause rips and tears.

Try having your partner pull or tug on your cock ring. It can feel good for you and can be a power play for your partner. Just ask them to be careful not to squeeze or pinch too much (unless you like it).

Some cock rings are meant to please both partners. Try a ring with a vibrating head. The vibration can be pleasing to you, and will definitely stimulate your partner, too!

 

Have questions? Let us know and will be happy to help! http://thereddoorstore.com/index.php/contacts/

Things You Didn’t Know About Porn

Porn is more prevalent than ever. In the last 15 years, the number of adult websites has increased a whopping 600% – from 70,000 websites to over 4.2 million. In fact, about half of the internet is made up of porn or porn related content. Wow! That’s a lot of porn… and it’s proof positive that porn is a successful and thriving industry. As a whole, the sex industry is the most profitable industry in the world – surpassing retail, technology and the entertainment industry. Just to give you an idea of the scope of porn, around 13,000 adult videos are produced each year. In total, these films gross over $13 billion dollars in profit. In comparison, Hollywood released only 507 movies last year and made only 8.8 billion in profit.

So, here’s an interesting look at the industry and things you may not have known about porn:

1. According to a recent Pornhub.com analysis, “creampie” and “MILF” are the most porn related search terms in the US. However, “teen” is the most searched term across the globe.

2. There are over 68 million daily searches for porn in the United States. This accounts for about 25% of all daily searches.

3. Male porn stars make far less than female porn stars. The average male porn star makes between $50 – $1500 per scene and generally are not paid royalties. However, men who do gay porn make three times the amount they would normally make in straight porn. By comparison, female porn stars can make up to quarter of a million dollars a year.

4. Jenna Jameson is the wealthiest porn star ever. Her net worth is around $30 million thanks to her web presence and sex toys collection.

5. The gang bang world record is held by Lisa Sparxxx who had sex with 919 men in one day. The world record for a “reverse gang bang” is held by Jon Dough, who had sex with 101 women in one day.

6. Research shows that while viewing porn, men do not focus on the breasts or genitalia. Instead, they prefer to focus on a woman’s face, particularly her eyes and lips. In contrast, women who are not on a hormonal birth control will focus on the genitalia. Women on hormonal birth control focus more on the scenery.

7. Christmas Day is the least popular day of the year to view porn. Sundays are the most popular day to view porn. And a recent study shows that most porn viewing occurs between the hours of 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.

8. Wicked Pictures in the only porn production company that requires the use of condoms in their films. The remaining production companies deem it “optional”. And those who want to use condoms are less likely to be employed in films.

9. At any given moment, it’s estimated that 30,000 people are watching porn. To meet the vast demand, a new porn video is produced every 39 minutes.

10. Studies around the world have shown that countries with the easiest access to hardcore pornography also have the lowest sex-crime rates.

11. By their early 20’s, nearly 9 out of 10 (87 %) young men report having watched porn. Only 1 in 3 (31%) young women report having watched porn.

12. Research shows that boys begin watching porn at around age 10 or 11. Furthermore, the largest consumer group of internet porn is boys between the ages of 12-17.

Fun Sex Toys!

Usually, sex jokes and gag gifts are reserved for Dirty Santa games or Bachelor/Bachelorette parties. You know… inflatable goats, boob sunglasses, hopping penises, and such. But fun toys like these don’t have to be limited to special occasions. Sex should be fun. It’s ok to laugh and get silly. And throwing a little humor into your life can reduce tension and nerves around trying something new.

So here are some fun and silly toys from our collection, found in-store and online at the RedDoor!

1. Clone-A-Willy Glow Kit – Designed by a doctor, it’s a complete kit that perfectly copies a mans own penis in super realistic, glow-in-the-dark rubber. Each kit comes with easy to follow instructions and includes everything necessary to produce an EXACT rubber copy of any penis!

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2. Mini Mini Monkey Vibe – No need for a banana with the Mini Mini Monkey; theres plenty of stimulation in store for your clitoris from this vigorous variable speed vibe. Free of phthalates and toxins, its low maintenance and discreetly portable. Ready to swing? Just switch on the monkey and enjoy.

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3. X-Rated Beer Pong – X-Rated Beer Pong Inflatable Drinking & Dare Game for adults only. Beer Pong Game Sink It, Drink It! Then do it! Crack open a couple cold ones and get ready for the naughtiest, nastiest game of Beer Pong ever imagined! We have taken the hottest craze around college towns – Beer Pong – and combined it with one of the most classic hook-up games of all times X-Rated dirty dares!

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4. Penis Pokey – This book contains no nudity. No profanity. No sexual material of any kind. And yet it just might be the most obscene thing we’ve ever published! Penis Pokey is an illustrated board book with a large die-cut hole in its center. Every spread features a dazzling full-color illustration with one thing missing a banana, perhaps, or a fire hose, or a sea serpent. Male readers can complete the illustrations using the talents God has given them. Are we serious? Yes! Is this funny? Absolutely!

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5. Paco’s Taco Stroker – Make self-love more fun with Paco’s Taco, an ultra-soft open-faced stroker that puts pleasure in the palm of your hand! Reusable with Paco’s “Sauce” lubricant included, Paco’s Taco satisfies every time – simply open the box, liberally apply our “sauce”, and wrap around your “meat.” Second and third helpings are encouraged!

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6. Fleshlight Alien – The ultimate alien fantasy has landed. The new Fleshlight Alien is an unworldly experience that will abduct your penis and send it spiraling through in a real milky way! Use the Alien for the ultimate in E.T. ecstasy. The exclusive Alien texture combines the feel of three of our most popular textures to create one out-of-this-world experience. Tantalizing sinews swirl together mimicking our famous Vortex canal before breaking through to a Lotus node that finally gives way to our most intense texture, the STU.

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7. Wonderland Kinky Kat Cock Ring – Follow this buzzing kitty into a world of fantasy and pleasure. The Kinky Kat C-Ring features a removable clitoral bullet with push-button control and 10 intense functions for clitoral stimulation during sex. You will fall in love with this cock ring for its regal look, storybook design, and the grinning cat at the tip that was just made for teasing. This playful kitty wants to see you smile!

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8. Flirt Finger Tingle Bunny – Let your finger do the flirting. Adorably cute, cleverly shaped, mini silicone reuseable finger vibe. Made of 100% medical grade silicone and phthalate free ABS. Feel the waves of strong vibration all the way through to the tips of the bunny ears! Great for clitoral or body stimulation. Use one on each finger tip for an experience to remember.

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Sex Ed: Kegels and Ben Wa Balls

What are the kegel muscles?

The term “Kegel muscle” is used to refer to the muscles of the pelvic floor, the pubococcygeus muscles (PC muscles). The PC muscles hold your pelvic organs in place, control the flow of urine, and also contributes to sexual pleasure during intercourse. How? PC muscle are also responsible for the contractions you feel during an orgasm.

How do I find my kegel muscles?

To identify your pelvic floor muscles, stop urination in midstream. If you succeed, you’ve got the right muscles.

How do I strengthen my kegel muscles?

You can strengthen you PC muscles by using ben-wa balls or simple exercises. Exercises should be done multiple times a day for maximum results. Keep reading to found out how!

What are kegel exercises?

Kegel exercises are the repetitive tightening and relaxing of the PC muscles.

Why should I do kegel exercises?

Kegel exercises won’t actually tighten your vagina. But, they will tone and strengthen your vaginal muscles, which can increase your ability to be aroused. Kegels will also create a tighter grip during intercourse. They can also help intensify contractions during orgasm, because they send more blow-flow to your nether regions!

HOW TO DO KEGEL EXERCISES:

STEP 1 –  Once you’ve identified your pelvic floor muscles, empty your bladder and lie on your back. Tighten your pelvic floor muscles, hold the contraction for five seconds, and then relax for five seconds. Try it four or five times in a row. Work up to keeping the muscles contracted for 10 seconds at a time, relaxing for 10 seconds between contractions.

STEP 2 – For best results, focus on tightening only your pelvic floor muscles. Be careful not to flex the muscles in your abdomen, thighs or buttocks. Avoid holding your breath. Instead, breathe freely during the exercises.

STEP 3 – Repeat 3 times a day. Aim for at least three sets of 10 repetitions a day.

HOW TO USE BEN-WA BALLS:

STEP 1 – Insert one ball at a time. Putting lubrication on the balls will help them glide in. Women have said that inserting the balls is similar to inserting a tampon. If you’re having trouble, you should lift one leg up. If that doesn’t work, try inserting them while lying down.

STEP 2 – Squeeze your leg muscles together and then your pelvic muscles together to hold the balls in. The balls should push down a little bit inside your vagina, and they will make your vagina feel “full”. Much like tampons, you should eventually get used to the feeling.

STEP 3 – Hold the balls inside for at least 15 minutes a day to strengthen your PC muscles. You can hold them in for hours for a better workout.

Visit us online at www.thereddoorstore.com for Ben-Wa balls and more!

Old-Fashioned Sex Advice Revisited

Sixty years ago, a woman’s pleasure was a thing to be whispered about. Sex outside of marriage was shameful. Sex toys, or anything other than missionary, were for cheap girls and harlots. We’ve certainly come a long way when it comes to adventurous sex. Porn is mainstream. Adult stores are big business, no longer back alley establishments. And movies like “50 Shades of Grey” have inspired women everyone to try a little BDSM. But should we completely discard old-fashioned beliefs about sex? Let’s take a look…

Old-fashioned Tip #1 – Your most important job is to build up and maintain his ego. Morale is a woman’s business.

This isn’t bad advice. Appreciating and complimenting your man builds up his confidence. And confidence is good for the bedroom. The more you praise his manhood and his efforts, the more he’s going to want to please you.

Old-fashioned Tip #2 – If you are one of those frigid or sexually anesthetic women, don’t be in a hurry to inform your husband about it.  To the man it makes no difference in the pleasurableness of the act whether you are frigid or not, unless he knows that you are frigid.  And he won’t know unless you tell him, and what he doesn’t know won’t hurt him.

Uhm, wrong. This one is definitely wrong with a capital “W”. A man knows if you are not enjoying yourself. And, if you are not enjoying himself, chances are it will ruin some part of the act for him. Can he still get off and orgasm even if you’re bored to tears? Yes, probably. But, can it also affect his performance and make it less pleasurable? Definitely. Only a major asshole doesn’t care if you are bored and miserable. So, throw this advice out the window and talk to your partner about what you do and don’t like. If he doesn’t want to listen and please you, ditch him!

Old-fashioned Tip #3 – Underwear should be spotlessly clean goes without saying, but every woman should wear the best quality underwear that she can afford.  And the color should be preferably pink.  And lace and ruffles, I am sorry to say, add to the attractiveness of underwear, and are liked by the average man.

This one has some merit to it. Not all men like lingerie or fancy underwear. But if you want to feel sexy… and you want him to see you as sexy… make sure whatever you’re wearing is in good shape, flattering, and preferably in a color you or he loves. No one is sexy is undies with stains or holes in them. So, I am not talking about always wearing satin and lace. You can still be sexy in cute cotton bras and panties. And the color doesn’t have to be pink. According to my research, men prefer black or white.

Old-fashioned Tip #4 – While sex is at best revolting and at worse rather painful, it has to be endured.

Say what? No. Just no. This is one old-fashioned sex tip I can’t believe exists! Sex should never be revolting or painful. If it is, you’re doing it wrong! Even when you want it to be painful, that should come from a place of pleasure, because you find that enjoyable.

Old-fashioned Tip #5The wise bride will permit a maximum of two brief sexual experiences weekly during the first months of marriage. As time goes by she should make every effort to reduce this frequency.

Problem #1 with this tip… Sex no longer has to be enjoyed under the confines of marriage. Problem #2… If you are married, lessening the frequency of sex is bound to take its toll on your relationship. In fact, married couples should work hard to stay committed, keep things fresh, and try to have sex as much as possible. Distancing yourself from each other sexually is a fast track to divorce. Don’t let kids, work, and life get in the way of being intimate with each other.

Old-fashioned Tip #6A wise bride will make it the goal never to allow her husband to see her unclothed body, and never allow him to display his unclothed body to her.

Oh, quite the contrary my friends! Being naked has many benefits to your health AND makes you want to have sex more often. How? It increases your circulation and improves your confidence – both of which have been proven to increase sex drive and sexual pleasure!

While we may learn from the past in most other circumstances, sex doesn’t seem to be one of them! Thank goodness we’ve come so far so that we can cum so far. I’ll take modern sex any day of the week!

XOXO, Bella

Add Some Shades of Grey to Your Life…

You’ve read the books. You’ve seen the movie… and even if you haven’t, surely you’ve heard all about Fifty Shades of Grey! Women everywhere have been stirred up for the last two years thanks to the erotic sensation! Toys sales have gone up. Couples are experimenting more. And, sex has been a hot topic in the media. All of this has created an opportunity for lovers to get a little kinkier without feeling embarrassed. So now it’s time to add some shades of grey to your own sex life! Here are our favorites from the exclusive Fifty Shades of Grey Collection available online and in-store at the RedDoor:

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Electro-Sex… It’s SHOCKING!

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Have you ever heard of Erotic Electro-stimulation? I didn’t think so… But it’s not something a mad scientist does!

According to Wikipedia,  Erotic Electro-stimulation is “a human sexual practice involving the application of electrical stimulation to the nerves of the body, with particular emphasis on the genitals, using a power source for purposes of sexual stimulation.” In other words, you’re shocking parts of your body for sexual pleasure.

Yeah… It’s not for everyone. I know. But, if done right, it can add an exhilarating new dimension to your sex life. You’re probably asking yourself, “WHY would anyone do that?!?!” Well, an electric current can stimulate nerve endings and involuntary muscle stimulation in erogenous areas. So basically, it’s an intense activation of the erotic nerves, which can be an extremely pleasurable experience. Some people also use electro-stimulation for S&M play. It’s an interesting way to explore the pleasure/pain boundaries. However, it has much fewer risks and lasting physical damage when compared to more traditional BDSM practices. That’s because it can be precisely controlled and does not leave physical marks, bruises, etc.

Want to learn more about the types of stimulation and safety precautions? Read here: A Guide to Erotic Electrostimulation

Think you’re ready to experiment? Try these stimulating novelties from the RedDoor:

 

shock therapy kit Fetish Fantasy Deluxe Shock Therapy Kit – Give your sex life a “charge” with this incredible deluxe electro-sex kit. This electric stimulation Shock Therapy Kit is perfect for first-timers and those familiar to e-stimulation alike. The easy-to-read LCD screen on the digital power control unit clearly displays the function and intensity level, and with 3 pre-programmed pulsation patterns to choose from, this attractive control unit sends electrical impulses to whichever body part you place the pad on. Choose from a sensuous tingle to a throbbing tap, all with the push of a button, and pick one of the 5 body zones to stimulate. With over 100 stimulation combinations to choose from, the possibilities are endless. Choose a setting on the power unit’s dial to control the intensity and go from a sensuous tingle to a throbbing tap in seconds. Switch between “SLOW” or “FAST” to control the frequency of the shock, or adjust the dial to control the strength of the shock. Using the timer function, the battery-powered unit will automatically shut off after a 15 minute interval. The pads are self-adhesive and reusable, attach to the lead wire using snaps, and clean up easily after the fun with PipeDream Toy Cleaner and warm water. Great for muscle stimulation, neural stimulation, and an all-over relaxing electro massage! Includes nipple clamps, cock cage, and a probe, Too!

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WeVibe Thrill – Winner of 5 international awards, Thrill by We-Vibeis designed for indulgent solo play. The G-spot stimulator provides internal fullness and friction, while the clitoral vibrator delivers external stimulation. With the touch of a button, you can choose the mode that matches your mood — from a low rumble to ultra vibrations. Thrill by We-Vibe is made with body-safe materials, including medical-grade silicone, and is 100% waterproof. It also features USB charging and 90-minute recharging for 2 hours of play.

 

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Intensity By Jopen – The JOPEN Intensity is the first sex toy built around a new patented technology created for a completely different application. It began when two medical professionals created a unique apparatus to strengthen women’s pelvic floor muscles. During the tests Jopen Intensity women began reporting intense orgasms and sexual joy like never before Created, designed, tested, perfected and manufactured 100% in the USA Inflatable Shaft for Custom Fit Dual Stimulating Electro Contacts to enhance pelvic contractions G-spot and Clitoral Vibrators 5-Level Vibration Control.

 

41MbPLGxR8L__SY300_KinkLab Neon Wand Electrosex Kit – The Neon Wand® is a popular device from Kinklab’s ElectroErotic® line that creates an electrical discharge across the surface of the skin. The electricity produces sensations over a broad range, from a pleasurably warm tingling, to a more intense, focused sensation that some find painful. The level of sensation created by the wand can be controlled both by a multi-level intensity dial on the wand itself, and also by which electrode you choose to use. The Neon Wand kit comes with 4 different glass attachments (Electrode Comb, Mushroom Tube, 90° Probe, Tongue Tube) that will be a thrill to experiment with. The kit color refers to the color of the light glowing in the glass electrodes. Kits are available in purple or red.

Sexy Tips for Long Distance Relationships

Are you in a long-distance relationship? Perhaps you’ve gone off to college. Or, maybe you’ve had to move for career or family reasons. Or maybe you’ve been in my shoes, where you’ve met someone amazing on a trip. No matter the circumstances, we all know how hard it can be to keep your love life alive when you can’t see your partner as much as you’d like. So, here are some tips for keeping things sexy in long-distance relationships!

1. Learn the art of phone sex and sexting… talking dirty to your partner through phone sex or sexting is a great way to keep the anticipation and passion alive. Describe things you would like to do with  your partner when you see them. Don’t know what to say? Grab some erotic literature and get your creative juices flowing. Or, simply read the erotica aloud to your partner.

2. Begin a sexy exchange of letters… In your letters, describe in detail what you would like your partner to do to you. Scent the paper with your signature perfume or cologne. Then, seal it with a kiss. Encourage your partner to write back with what they will do in return. Don’t like snail mail? Send the letters back and forth through email or social media.

3. Send sexy pictures or quick videos… Buy new lingerie and snap a pic. Send it with a tease, like “Can’t wait to wear this for you!” Fellas, snap a pic of your semi-erect cock in your boxer briefs with a tagline of “Can’t wait to finish with you!” Feeling more adventurous? Take a quick video of yourself stroking your clit or cock. Don’t finish. Just tease…

4. Have web-cam sex… Jump on your laptop’s web-cam or your iPad’s Face Time and perform for each other. Play a game of “I do, you do” or have your partner tell you exactly what they want to see.

5. Leave lust notes… When you are with  your partner, hide sexy notes or pictures for them to find after you leave.

6. Send erotic gifts… Let’s face it – there’s nothing like the real thing. But, if you’re in a long-distance relationship and want to stay monogamous, you may have to get creative. Fellas, send your gal a vibrator and include a note of what you would like her to do with it. Or schedule a time for her to use it for you via Skype or phone sex. Girls, send your guy a masturbator and include a naughty picture of yourself for him to help him imagine it’s you.

With commitment and creativity, plus lots of communication, you can maintain the flames in a long-distance relationship.